Radhe Radhe!
Please help me out. My parents are making me to eat non-veg food. I am trying my level best to not eat but I am failing at it because of my parents. I even cried and refused but my mother forced food in me. She is hitting me as I am refusing to eat. She said she will never allow this to happen. She thinks due me bhakti I changed a lot and she also thinks that I keep on praying so she removed most of the God photos that hung in our house. She threatend me that if I don't eat non-veg, she will not keep diya to God. In recent circumstances I manged to convince her that if I make into an IIT or NIT she said she will agree to my decision but she also said that I have to eat non-veg untill my exams.
What am I supposed to do? Am I suppose to eat non-veg untill the exams but thinking of it is making me even more sick. I seriously don't want to eat. Please help me out.
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Hare krsna ,
I feel sad you are going through this, but real problem is our own karma, as the vaishnav song says" apan karam bhunjay shaman" . now our job is to rectify that karma we have got. Real help comes from krsna, so keep praying as hard as you can to krsna. For cutting bad karma-trouble given by other people-adhibhavtik taap- , pray to radha rani as well, read bhagwatam, write krsna krsna in a diary.
Go to doctor, get them to write note that you allergic to non-veg due to certain type of food intolerance, then show parent and hopefully that will stop them from forcing you
Thank You very much for your reply!
Hare Krishna
(This is only my opinion) I think you should still refuse to eat because if we eat meat even if forcefully God will be disappointed in us because if we look at stories at Prahlada, Meera, Gopis, Narsinh Mehta, etc they were all ready to give up lives than to rather do a sin. We have to be brave for our bhakti towards God if we want to call ourselves a true devotee. However, they might kick you out of your house so in this circumstance, you can probably go to your hare krishna temple for shelter.
Thank You very much for your reply!
Thank You very much for your reply!
Hare krishna Mata ji PAMHO
If your parents are not allowing u to leave non-veg then, you can say that u will limit it and in that limitation u can only eat with the rasa part. And mean while u can try to politlely convince your parents. But if they became angry 😡 then please don't mess with them. And one more thing is that please don't behave arrogantly and in a hate mood, I have done this in my house and it resulted very bad. Many relatives and parents became very angry and unhappy.
Lord Chaitanya said
tṛṇād api sunīcena
taror api sahiṣṇunā
amāninā mānadena
kīrtanīyaḥ sadā hariḥ
You need to be tolerant, in front of parent just study don't do Bhakti in front of them, try to do it hiddenly.
And with studies, this material studies helps a lot to convince parents, please study very well and pray to krishna. Prayers are very very powerful and it also pleases Krishna. So pray to krishna, he will surely help you.
I hope this will help u.
Hare Krishna
Radhey Radhey!
Thank You very much for your reply.
So in the end, am I suppose to eat it till I prove them with my studies?
Is there no other way to stop eating all at once?
Mata ji, I am also in the same trouble,I belong to a bengali family and recently I had a quarrel type of thing with ma, as she was telling me to eat meat but I refused, It is really very difficult, They are thinking I'm getting mad, sadhu....
Parents are saying these are also food as these are in food cycle,i had no logic for this, I really don't know what to do, what to say them,?
Hare Krishna!
I personally think that disobeying your parents is different from setting your priorities. If our parents are needing some service from us which is Sattvic, we should go to all extents to fulfill their need and want, but if they are asking us to do something non-sattvic, then we can resist.
If your parents stop you from going to temple, there is no need to go as we can remember Thakur Ji from within. But if they force you to eat meat, etc, we should apply all of our strength to get out of the situation but never ever insult them. I am also 17, and have insulted them and needless to say, it didn't go well. So, just be firm on your principles.
Sri Prahlad Ji Maharaj wasn't forcing Hiranyakashipu to stop his activities, but he still remained steadfast in his own devotional service. I am saying this because devotee characters are a great way to learn and this is because of personal experience.
I absolutely do not crtitcize you or your parents as everyone has their own tendencies, but personally, we have to walk away from activities like eating meat or prohibited items, illicit sex, alcohol/intoxication, and no gambling. Apart from these things, you should try and do what your parents say. If your parents criticize devotees, then I have heard from saints that we should not nod along with them, and even though our ears may be open, we should close our hearts and minds to their words. If someone else, like brother, sister (not elderly relative like uncle) is criticizing, then we can tell them to leave us alone politely for the moment, or we can make some excuse and remove ourselves from the situation.
When I go to school and hear criticism, I personally put my fingers in my ears tightly and walk out. Or, sometimes, I put on Vaishnava songs in my ears and walk out while playing them through bluetooth earphones. Whenever my mind thinks that others will laugh at me, I feel calm knowing that others can only laugh, but one day my Gaura Chandra will hug me in love. So you can do this too and experience peace.
Hare Krishna Prabhu Ji. I am not at all qualified to help you out, but this is some of what I haveheard in satsanga and thru my own experience. I pray that Lord Krsna fixes your solution.
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