Hare krishna to all devotees,
All glories to guru and gauranga,
All glories to srila prabhupada.
Please bless me with the information whether marriage at 29 required when one has to take vanaprasta at 50 and ultimately sanyasa. I will turn 29 this december 9th. I read in prabhupada books that one has to lead a brahmacharya life till 25 years and he may marry to retire at 50 and ultimately take sanyasa. I didnt had a celibate brahmacharya life, however want to stick to krishna consciousness throughout my life. My parents are non devotees and they want to do my marriage preferably to a non-devotee, However I am not able to find a devotee match, not able to live a life of celibacy, not able to decide whether to marry or not. Further, I worry about my future if i marry a non-devotee. Please bless me with your valuable information.
Haribol!
Haribabu Arya.
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In my opinion if u have decided to get marry, then first try to find a devotee girl. If u r not able to find a devotee girl who could adjust with ur parents then also no problem, find a girl n tell so n so u r in KC, by marriying a non-devotee girl atleast one another soul will come to KC. Same thing happned with the Mercy of Guru n Gauranga i married a non-devotee , now not only my wife but also thier relatives are chanting, attending festivals, etc... but before that u need to become strong in KC n shud pray for krishna, with krishna's mercy only anything could happen
hare krishna to all, krishna say in BG 3.6
Hare Krsna devotee, If you cannot be celibate then get married to a devotee lady.
There are so many nice ladies looking for devotee husband why would you not marry a devotee?
You are 29 years old and you are still totaly dependant on your parents who are non devotees?. Why?
If you marry now you can take vanaprastha at55. Sannyas is not for everyone but KC is.
If you want to stick to KC as you say then you must find a nice KC lady and serve Krsna together.
Tell your parents now and look at the devotee matrimanial sites carefuly.
Try to get a wife your parents would aproove also but its more important to get a very devoted and KC lady than anything else.
I was married twice and my second devotee wife I took at 32. She is a very KC devotee.
One of my freinds married at 35 after 15 years as a strict brahmacari and he's happily KC married with 2 sons.
You can keep your wife with you as a vanaprastha just be full time KC no more business.
On the order of my siksha guru I left my wife but it is not compulsory unless you intend to take sannyas.
I hope you are capable of provideing well for wife and family and get the blessings of guru and vaisnavas.
29 is OK but you should avoid delay now,
Hare Krsna.
Hare Krishna Devotees, Please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
Please, forgive me for poking my nose everywhere!
some time before i heard lectures of HH Bhakti Purna Swami Maharaj given in Alma Ata, Kazakhstan. He gave lecture about Grihastha ashram - family life, reading from Srimad Bhagavatam about the life of Kardama Muni and Devahuti.
And the same question was arisen. He told that, after marring the last child father and mother can enter into vanaprastha ashram.
till that time parents' duty is to take care of their children, providing them with education (in order in the future they can provide themselves and their family)...and so on.