Hare Krishna,
Pamho,
AgtSP!
Always I had dream of having enough property and lead comfortable life. How much
property should grihastha should have to live happy life ? I have to have little greed
otherwise it is difficult to progress in this material world and I feel it is the driving
force. How much one should save for family, education and retirement? Expecting answer
from devotees.
Your servant
Aakash
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Hare Krishna dear Siddhartha Prabhu, Rahul Prabhu and Sudipta Roy Prabhu,
please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
If to accept Siddhartha Prabhu's concept that wife is Maya and to support wife and children is Maya then when i get married also will be Maya. Useless blood soaking jackal :O :D (which is true)
But in other case it is true. Family life is a extra burden. If one is intelligent enough he won't enter into family life and waste his life for the exchange of some tiny sense pleasures.
And the meaning of grihastha ashram is to give understanding to a person that there is no meaning of it. There is no meaning in this family life. Just wastage of time. But one will realize it before marriage by just hearing some others will realize it by tasting the 'food'.
So our respected Siddhartha Prabhu is that realized soul who understood that family life is wastage of time.
When we have our own kids we take care only of OUR OWN kids. Our OWN wife. Our OWN parents...relatives...so it is selfishness. But it is nice to some extent that we do take care of them, at least, not only of ourselves. So the meaning of grihastha ashram - TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES for sex life having children, for blood soaking wife...mostly...for relatives...by working hard whole day BUT always thinking of Krishna and hoping that only in this way he will purify his heart.
If we were selfless, with no material desires then we would take care of kids of OTHERS in Gurukulas, food for life, preaching, ....why not? Full time? Take care of others' relatives ...why not????
Because we are selfish and we have some material desire that we sincerely accept that enter into Grihastha ashram.
It is only stages of one same stair. Sannyasi might be in above stages, grihastha in lower stages, ...
So if one is self satisfied in brahmachari ashram and serving peacefully then why he should get married?
But if one is not self satisfied and if one's mind is disturbed by seeing girls then he has to be sincere and get married and take all those big responsibilities voluntarily.
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When we will stop to glorify ourselves???
And think of ourselves as some big persons?
Yesterday i saw a picture:
So insignificant.
And how small we are in this one Earth planet? In a small country and in a small city and in a small body comparatively to Sun.
And Krishnadas Kaviraja Goswami says 'i am lower than the warm in the stool'
How humble he is. He is not blaming he is girhastha he is good. He is sannyasi he is good.
No. He is considering himself as a servant of others.
Raghunatha das Goswami used to bow down his head to thousands of Devotees no matter in which ashram they are.
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Bhaktivinod Thakur was in girhastha ashram, Srila Prabhupada was in grihashtha ashram so they did so many things for Krishna.
So the thing is not in which ashram i am in. The thing is you be sincere and accept that ashram in which you best can serve to Krishna. If brahmachari then that is good. If grihsatha than that is also good i you can manage.
Many senior brahmacharis in Chowpatty dedicating their full times for preaching and making others Krishna Conscious. Are they are in bad ashram???
No. They can do it so doing it.
And many other Devotees sincerely accepted grihastha ashram also doing great. Of course lesser time but still they are doing as much as they can. And the final goal of grihastha ashram is to renounce it when time comes.
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Siddhartha Prabhu called as son Mihir Prabhu and Sudipta Roy Prabhu, because of not considering himself as senior in devotional life but as a simple father to his sons. So please accept things as they are, please!
I have and all my female friends also have to consider You Prabhus as sons so do we do that because we consider ourselves senior than You all? No. It is the Vaishnava etiquette.
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Since we know for quite long time Siddhartha Prabhu, he is having 'snake' like tongue but soft heart.
The same we can say to Sudipta Roy Prabhu, sometimes when he preaches he is very strict so it does not mean that it is their disqualification.
Rahul Prabhu also very sincere Devotee whose main desire is to help others to be happy.
So we had some misunderstandings because of that we get angry posted so many hurting things.
Please forgive each other's mistakes for the sake of Srila Prabhupada!
And be little bit respectful to each other at least knowing the age of a person.
Admin won't delete none of Yours accounts because You are very nice Devotees but have some little different styles of communication.
My humble request from Siddhartha Prabhu, to be please little polite in Your words. It might be an austerity but what to do?
Rahul Prabhu also please continue to preach. No time for getting angry and loosing time, isn't it?
Sudipta Roy Prabhu also, please help people to learn Krishna Consciousness! Many people do not have access to direct association of Devotees, Temple so they are in need of proper guidance, please!
LET ME BE HURT BY OTHERS! LET ME SUFFER! BUT LET ME CONTINUE TO SERVE TO OTHERS AND MAKE THEM HAPPY!
Your servant,
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Hare Krishna dear Devotees, please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
It depends what type of wife one has :D
And of course mostly one will marry to someone in his own caste. If brahmana he will be attracted to brahmana girl, if kshatriya to kshatriya girl...
So usually brahmana family lives and can live very modest. Less food, less facilities, less expenditure. Brahmana wife does not desire to have many gold, or expensive sarees...expensive fruits....
But Vaishya wife is the opposite. She love to decorated to the full extent with gold, silver etc.
Kshatriya lady will like to be in the center and be always first so again there is need for much money.
Sudras ...
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I know families who stay in a rented single room in the middle of Mumbai, 5 members in the family and when i go as a guest to their home their hearts are open and find some place in that small room for a 6th member.
But on the other hand i saw families who reside in two bedroom house, separate kitchen, hall...lesser number of members but still were not satisfied with space and did not find a small place for a guest...
So it is true, as Siddhartha Prabhu told, greed cannot be satisfied.
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Concerning married life or unmarried life:
i also dislike the idea of some brahmacharis who remain as such just trying to avoid the burden of family life responsibilities. But being in that ashram also are not happy but always search for close contact with opposite sex.
So one should be sincere.
No matter in what ashram one is in Krishna Consciousness is internal thing. One can feel the sweetness of the Holy Names doing his job and earning money, contacting with karmi people but at the other hand one may be sitting in Kirtan but no taste for the Holy Names.
We have to accept that position in which we mostly able to serve to Krishna and please Him.
Your servant,
Dear Aakash, Hare Krsna. I hope all is well for you in your bhajan.
As a grhastha I did not struggle very hard to acquire so much property and wealth.
Its recommended to accept what comes without so much endeavor.
For years we lived a very simple life and then suddenly I got some chance for setting up my own business and I had some degree of success.
We had lots of money and I purchased many things and also gave much to the temple and vaisnavas.
When the time came I left family life and now live simply again.
A devotee may live like a beggar or a king yet he does not become bewildered and attached because his only desires to get love for Krsna.
The material assets are so temporary and you cannot take even one pai when you go.
Real happiness is not money and property but love for Krsna and His devotees.
Thanks prabhuji,
your answer helped to remove my anxiety to acquire property and money.
Your Servant
Aakash