Hare Krsna Dear Devotees, PAMHO, AGTSP
I am very afraid of situation like bhakti par logo se ya parivaar Wale ya dost log se discussion ya behes ho jaaye. Because in past hum aise situations mein fase hain aur pura ander tak dar gaye the ya abhi bhi hota hai to dar jaate hain.
Darte kyun hain?-
1. Hum bewkuf na unke Nazar mein ban jaaye.
2. Hum sahi se scriptures ya bhakti ko explain na kar paaye to aur insulting hoga.
3. Bhagavan ka bhi mathā kharab kar denge. Because I will become a wrong Respresenter.
Also, I want myself to be seen superior when discussing these things(bhakti, spirituality etc. Related to Krsna) otherwise log sunege nahi aur follow nahi karenge jo bhi batayenge or atleast Respect to karen😑.
Aur aisa situation mein hum pehle hi fas chuke hain isiliye wo gehra dar mere ander baith Gaya hai. How to deal with this?
Aur upar se wo log bhagavan ya bhakto ke baare mein galat salat bhi bich mein bolne lagte hain. Achanak wo log bhakto ke baare mein wrong ya criticize word bol dete hain hain isiliye aur jyada dar lagta hain. Ab to un log ko dekh kar hi, Mentally aur physically bhi hath pair sun padne lag jata hai. That's why I want to be seen superior in these discussions. How to deal with this? Because they are family members, cousins etc. also I try best to avoid them still kuchh situations mein hota hai ki saath mein aana padta hai and time spend karna hota hai. Also all memeber in my family ye dharna bana liye hain ki ye to alag hai, Andhvishwashi hai, ye to pandit hi banega, etc. so some of them they emphasize more on these discussion ki yaar isse discuss karte hain. But they will discuss others philosophy, Scriptures ko Divine maante nahi hain aur mental speculations se hazaar points le aayenge aur hum un points ko kaat hi nahi paate hain. Also they follow materialistic online teachers Vikas divyakirti, ojha etc. Specially those siblings jo bade hain aur mature bhi hai, humko unke argument ko attack karne nahi aata hai. Isiliye aur dar bad Jata hai, jab points rakhte hain which are offensive to devotees, Lord and scriptures, then I get disturb because humko aparadha lag jaayega, also bhagavan ko bhi ye sab pasand nahi aayega as krsna is there with me.
Aur wo kuchh ladkiyan bhi hain jo feminism, brahmano ne ye-wo kiya hai girls ke saath etc. to hum jyada harsh bhi, ya cruel tarike se bhi nahi nikaal sakte hain apne arguments ko.
Also wo 4-5 apna apna argument soch kar bolte rehte hain aur hum ek, to bahut difficult situation ho jaata hai. How to deal with this?? I get very afraid of these situations because these situations disturb me for a long time years tak dar lagta hai aur wo person saamne aa jaye jisse argument hua tha to dar wapas se jaag jata hai bhale hi sadhana achha chalta hai to ye dar rehta hai ki bhagavan ko bura lagega ki hum sahi se unka band nahi bajā paye. What to do?? Pls guide.
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Hare Krsna Prabhu,
PAMHO.
To be able to discuss scriptures, one has to know and realise. For that, one has to chant mahamantra and read.
You appear to be very young. You are doing what most youngsters do - define yourself as a devotee so that the larger family knows, but with komala shradha.
Like Bharath prabhu alraedy mentioned, attitude needs to be changed. You need to develop humility. The way to do that is to chant. PLease chant with attention, listening to your own voice chanting the mahamantra.
Consciously recite vancha kalpatarubhayashca......every day more often. Try and do some service to vaishnavas whenever possible.
Regarding dealing with family - see prabhu you are very young. At this age, everyone wants to blend in. Do the same in family. Do not wear your devotion up your sleeve. Internalise it. For this, when you meet cousins and elders, simply be normal with them. Regading food, slowly start telling everyone onion and garlic taste you dont like, non veg is bad for your health and so on.... Do not mention devotion. Wear water tilak to functions, so that only Krsna and you know that you have put on tilak.
If elders are saying anything, pray internally and keep quiet. They will themselves stop after few attempts. If you have to say anything, say I respect you. And we shoudl stay united as followers of sanatan. THis is the latest hashtag and people understand this language.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Radha Rasamayi DD
Hare Krishna,
That is why neophytes shouldn't preach. A madhyama adhikari knows how to handle the sitation tactfully. If the situation goes out of hand generally we should direct them to senior devotees. Because a kanishtha
adhikari is bound to preach wrongly as he is not perfect himself. He will spread wrong information sometimes. Sometimes the kanishtha devotee can get into futile arguements it mostly ends up into big time EGO
clashes. Now see for yourself you are engaging in endless mindless discussions... THE MAIN IDEA OF PREACHING IS NOW SIDELINED AND YOUR EGO WAS HURT BY HIM SO YOU HURT HIM.
Now it is no longer preaching. It became EGO clashes. Basically you both parties become puffed up and feel superior over one another. To show ur supremacy you are studying scriptures now !!! not for loving
Krishna or understand Bhakti.
Avoid these debates and simply do bhakti, become simple devotee. If anyone comes to argue. Send them direct to seniors devotees. If they are not satisfied with the replies let them go on their way!
Not all can get KC in one life time it self !
Hare Krishna
Hare Krsna
I want myself to be seen superior when discussing these things(bhakti, spirituality etc. Related to Krsna) otherwise log sunege nahi aur follow nahi karenge jo bhi batayenge or atleast Respect to karen
This is not a favourable attitude to progress in Bhakti. If someone wants to show they are superior to others in Bhakti or Knowledge then, that person will likely face many obstacles in bhakti and life.
Best way is to focus on our practice of sadhana to please Sri Krsna & Guru.
humko unke argument ko attack karne nahi aata hai
No need to get into arguments with anyone. Just do your practice of Bhakti. Let them do what they want to do. You don't disturb or provoke them.
Sadhana achha chalta hai to ye dar rehta hai ki bhagavan ko bura lagega ki hum sahi se unka band nahi bajā paye. What to do?? Pls guide.
Sadhana is performed not to win in arguments with others or impress others with our knowledge. Sadhana is performed to please Krsna. At this stage you should focus on avoiding all arguments and conflicts. There is no world cup that will be awarded if you even win any argument. Just avoid any arguments or conflicts.
Hare Krsna