Hare Kṛṣṇa dear devotees...
Our basic need is to love and be loved. But in KC it is taught that only Lord can satisfy these needs of our soul. No one else can.
But, the problems in any kind of relationship are studied, and given practical solutions to ,today...using modern spirituality. Which our community believes is all pseudo-spirituality because it is for better material facility.
In my family these techniques are practised to some extent and i see it keeps family life really quite satisfying. There is tolerance, mutual compromise, mutual understanding, love, care and respect etc etc.
Further to this, even if i observe how deaths in family are perceived..they cause only temporary pain and suffering. Later the one who was and is attached to the dead person moves on in a positive manner and dedicates life for the other family members, again engaging in loving reciprocations.
So my question is...yet, why any form of spirituality under Sanatan Dharma say so much negative on family attachments?
Also, dear devotees, kindly address the following points as well...
1)Some give the pig example.. saying that a pig feels he is very very happy eating stool. But we know that is not real happiness. But, being a nice responsibile and caring family person, is glorified and appreciated in our scriptures also. Why such contradiction?
2) Some say family cannot satisfy our soul. Everything material opulence can satisfy only our body and mind. But really, is there any difference between mind and soul? I sometimes feel, even to experience bliss in devotion is actually mind's satisfaction. Because that happens when we feed spiritual knowledge in our mind, due to which intelligence gets convicted and thus our taste in spiritual activities increases...as a result we obtain joy.
But i dont think there is really any way to differentiate if mind/soul is satisfied?
3) Moreover, bhakti is to be ultimately free from all problems. It is not to avoid all problems and lead a blissful life. The same case is with people who are in reality materialistic, but making use of pseudo-spirituality to be more happy in the world....same in the sense that they too face problems, LiKe any devotee would. Only the outlook becomes positive and hence a healthy and blissful life can be lived.
4) Other way to understand my question is...that we all have seen..a Positive attitude towards life changes everything. Even suffering doesn't feel like suffering..or even if it does..good times also come soon. And the teaching of Sanatan Dharma or Gita that everything material leads to misery, family is impediment on spiritual advancement , we cannot be happy or make others happy in real sense in this world.... but this difference between soul being satisfied or mind being satisfied is difficult to make out ..
Then, still why must i convince myself to forget about this other way and devote my Life completely to Lord?
PS: I love to add Lord in my life, and make Him centre of few activities..out of a sense of duty, desire, and somewhat for obtaining His protection. But the real stage of Bhakti..pure love of Godhead...is what i am asking about. Why is that still differently satisfying to the soul than loving other people (devotees / non devotees both)?????
Also, many devotees out of care suggest me that i just chant regularly, hear and pray for realisation so that these doubts get cleared...but i am really stubborn kind😐🙄. I cannot maintain stability in sadhna if my doubts are not cleared. I keep stopping, losing faith..again beginning out of various concerns.
KINDLY HELP ME🙇🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️🙇🏻♀️
THANK YOU ALL VERY MUCH. HARE KṚṢṆA!🙏😊