Alot of devotees are facing this issue of initimacy within marriage other than procreation which is not allowed. Shouldn't the devotees be trained well by their local temples and the devotees there before they actually take vows of initiation??? VOWS CAN'T BE BROKEN. Its in the welfare of the senior devotees to check that people(newcomers) are trained well b4 accepting a spiritual master and their lifes adjusted in such a way that they can follow all the vows of initiation. Suppose a young iskcon couple(both 25yrs)get married and they have been in Iskcon for just a year, and have both previously been in various relationships outside of marriage, going to nightclubs, bars, cinema etc..how can we expect that they're ready to take the vows without YEARS of practice. NEWCOMERS SHOULDN'T BE FORCED TO TAKE INITIATION... especially they shouldn't be rushed as there's a lot of RAW ENTHUSIASM in the beginning. Nevertheless suppose they both enjoy physical intimacy now (at 25yrs) but say at around 30yrs they both by the dint of their devotional service give up sex life altogether.
My question: eventhough( in the above example) the couple eventually overcame their sexual desires by serving the vaishnavas and by their devotional service + by mutual understanding between the two..... what about their early marriage days when they enjoyed each others company despite taking vow of no illicit sex (other then procreation within marraige).
I think this is a typical case of "MOST" iskcon couples, especially those who are serious they eventually are able to give up their sexual desires maybe not immediately but surely soon.PLEASE EMPHASISE ON THIS AS I THINK THAT ONE SHOULD RATHER REMAIN A ISKCON DEVOTEE, BUT ONLY TAKE INITIATION ONCE WELL TRAINED AND ONCE HE/SHE HAS OVERCOME THEIR SEX DESIRE TO AVOID GURU APARADHA BY HAVING SEX FOR PLEASURE WITHIN MARRIAGE IN THEIR EARLY YEARS OF MARRIAGE.