Hare Krishna everyone,
I had a question in my mind, which was going on my head from a quite long time, so i thought I should discuss here with devotees who are having vast experience in KC Movement.
I really don't understand that why we(conditional souls) after coming into KC movement, start looking for love outside us through marriage? Although we know that only Krishna's unconditional love can fulfill our heart fully.
I understand that marriage is also a part of life, which plays a very big role in one's life but when I observe people here in the material world and people at our KC movement, I feel no difference except one's mindset towards what a devotee goes and what a normal person goes.
To be more specific for yours better understanding, the difference, I am taking about is that i have seen that even female devotees have basic requirements like a normal materialistic women before getting married like she want her future partner to be financially strong, have a good career, so that they can provide good facilities to their kid. If, that female devotee is also thinking like this, then what's the difference b/w her mindset and a mindset of a normal women? and how can such a female devotee can claim herself the title of devotee? if she want her groom to be a good devotee+ a good career settled person.
Then where the love is there? That the both partners talk about. We do worship Radha Krishna with our all hearts day and night right? and what we are learning from their teachings and our acharyas teachings, if we are not implementing their teachings in our lives.
True love is also about doing sacrifice, true love is beyond skin love, true love is also about crossing borders for your beloved, true love is all about upliftment of other person and much more. But true love is not so cheap, so as the God's love.
I haven't seen the above symptoms in today's girls, even if they claim themselves a spiritual person.
And if the purpose of getting married in KC movement is to procreate the child, which in future will become a Krishna devotee, then why we are begetting more than 1 child? One should be thankful to God for getting a devotee child and the partner's should be satisfied enough with it, isn't? Then why they begget more than 1 child? Who told them to do it, is it God or their spiritual master?
But, the reality is something that just because we are such a fall down people and very much lusty, that we take advantage of our scriptures and give excuses all our life.
This world has witnessed a deep devoted women like Meera bai, lalleshwari and Akka Mahadevi? who had sacrificed everything for their beloved God, that they never gave a tinge of attention to lust, even if they were married.
I hope, the above doubt or my thought won't offend senior devotees ( especially married ones) but I think we need to accept the reality as it is and should know that only Krishna's love can fulfill us in the world, nothing else.