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I am a man of 24 yr and can I marry a woman of age elder than me may be 25 or 26?

How Iskcon or vaishnavism logically sees this?

Thank you.

Thank you all for your replies ,matajis and prabhujis. The actual thing is, I am not asking this above question by having a specific woman in mind. While trying to find KC woman on sites like devotee match etc. , I am not finding KC woman, of age lesser than me, only finding age more than me. So, should I change my way of search?

 

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  • E-Counselor
    Hare Krsna prabhuji,

    Pls contact me separately. Maybe I can help.

    haribol,
    your servant,
    Radha Rasamayi DD
  • If are both in love, have similar interests, likes and dislikes than it is ok (in my view). What matters most is that you are both willing share your life together, always be there for each other and make each other happy, after all isn't that what the lord would expect of you?
    • E-Counselor
      If both are so much in love, then why come to a public forum and ask this question?
      What we have answered is as per scriptures, not "my view".
      What the lord expects is very clearly mentioned by the lord in Bhagavad Gita - Yad karosi yad asnasi yajjuhosi dadasi yat - whatever you do, do it as a service to Me. This includes marriage. It is called Girhasta Ashram in our scriptures, as against Grihamedhi. Both terms are explained in Srimad Bhagawatam.
      Haribol,
      Your servant,
      Radha Rasamayi DD
      • Where does it say you cannot marry a woman older than you?
  • Before marriage, better to check with your elders and Guru! Contact in nearby Temples to the devotees and discuss what is ur exact situation, also Goal of any marriage should be to serve Lord Krishna by producing Krishna conscious children and raising all of them including wife toward ultimate goal of human life i.e. to love and serve Krishna and go back to Godhead. All the best! Hare Krishna!
  • E-Counselor
    Hare Krsna prabhuji,

    PAMHO.

    Better to avoid. As per scriptures, husband should be older than wife. This is because husband is naturally the dominating partner. He is also natural object of respect for wife. So, if he is younger, these things wont happen naturally.

    If your heart is set on her, you will anyways not listen and go ahead.

    Haribol,
    Your servant,
    Radha Rasamayi DD
    • What nonsense! how can you discriminate against love?? Does this mean you have to be a certain age before you can chant? or pray? or worship? what has age got to do with feelings? If you are believer in God you should realise that in his eyes men and women are equal.
      • Hare Krishna, while saying "Hare Krishna" i believe i am not offending you, Prabhu Ji you did not read question carefully, "Devotee" is asking i have no women in mind i am trying to find a "partner" in KC who may or may not be older to me and if i find older should i marry. So there is no question of so called "Love", Said devotee has genuine question and all senior devotees has replied very well by quoting that marrying to older women should be avoided

        Hare Krishna Prabhu
      • Sevak
        So called "love" mentioned by you is the indiscriminate hunger of animals when their mating season comes. They don't discriminate between elder, father, sister. Such is the blind indiscriminate love. More appropriate is word for it Lust.

        If you are believer in God you should realise that in his eyes men and women are equal.

        In Krsna's eyes everyone is a living entity - mosquito, man, pig, dog, tiger. Doesn't mean we treat them all equally. Discrimination is required and hence intelligence has been provided by Krsna.
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