Hare Krishna!!
What should one do whose nature is calm, don't like to tell lie, hardworker, living with principles. But he finds around himself with lazy, lier people. He should be strong & fight with them or what? If he fight with many people then he has chances to arise many enemies. He can't even ignore the situation . Or he should leave all the things & become sanyasi forever. I have heard supporting the wrong person is wrong. How one get to know which action is wrong or right?
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Hare Krsna,
His divine grace A.C Bhaktivedanta Swami Prabhupada has given explanations and recommendations on this topic in several books, especially in the Srimad Bhagavatam.
From the Srimad Bhagavatam, First Canto:
"Once Nityananda Prabhu and Srila Haridasa Thakura were walking down a main road, and on the way they saw a roaring crowd assembled. Upon inquiring from passers-by, they understood that two brothers, named Jagai
and Madhai, were creating a public disturbance in a drunken state. They also heard that these two brothers were born in a respectable brahmana family, but because of low association they had turned into debauchees of
the worst type. They were not only drunkards but also meat-eaters, woman hunters,dacoits and sinners of all description. Srila Nityananda Prabhu heard all of these stories and decided that these two fallen souls must
be the first to be delivered. If they were delivered from their sinful life, then the good name of Lord Caitanya would be even still more glorified. Thinking in this way, Nityananda Prabhu and Haridasa pushed their way through the crowd and asked the two brothers to chant the holy name of Lord Hari. The drunken brothers became enraged upon this request and attacked Nityananda Prabhu with filthy language. Both brothers chased them a considerable distance. In the evening the report of the preaching work was submitted to the Lord, and He was glad to learn that Nityananda
and Haridasa had attempted to deliver such a stupid pair of fellows.
The next day Nityananda Prabhu went to see the brothers, and as soon as He approached them one of them threw a piece of earthen pot at Him. This struck Him on the forehead, and immediately blood began to flow. But
Nityananda Prabhu was so kind that instead of protesting this heinous act, He said, "It does not matter that you have thrown this stone at Me. I still request you to chant the holy name of Lord Hari."
One of the brothers, Jagai, was astonished to see this behavior of Nityananda Prabhu, and he at once fell down at His feet and asked Him to pardon his sinful brother. When Madhai again attempted to hurt Nityananda
Prabhu, Jagai stopped him and implored him to fall down at His feet. In the meantime the news of Nityananda's injury reached the Lord, who at once hurried to the spot in a fiery and angry mood. The Lord immediately invoked His Sudarsana cakra (the Lord's ultimate weapon, shaped like a wheel) to kill the sinners, but Nityananda Prabhu reminded Him of His mission. The mission of the Lord was to deliver the hopelessly fallen souls of Kali-yuga, and the brothers Jagai and Madhai were typical examples of these fallen souls. Ninety percent of the population of this
age resembles these brothers, despite high birth and mundane respectability. According to the verdict of the revealed scriptures, the total population of the world in this age will be of the lowest sudra quality, or even lower. It should be noted that Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu never acknowledged the stereotyped caste system by birthright; rather, He
strictly followed the verdict of the sastras in the matter of one's svarupa, or real identity."
"When the Lord was invoking His Sudarsana cakra and Srila Nityananda Prabhu was imploring Him to forgive the two brothers, both the brothers fell down at the lotus feet of the Lord and begged His pardon for their
gross behavior. The Lord was also asked by Nityananda Prabhu to accept these repenting souls, and the Lord agreed to accept them on one condition, that they henceforward completely give up all their sinful activities and habits of debauchery. both the brothers agreed and promised to give up all their sinful habits, and the kind Lord accepted
them and did not again refer to their past misdeeds.
This is the specific kindness of Lord Caitanya. In this age no one can say that he is free from sin. It is impossible for anyone to say this. But Lord Caitanya accepts all kinds of sinful persons on the one condition that they promise not to indulge in sinful habits after being spiritually initiated by the bona fide spiritual master."
"As far as salvation is concerned, one has to conquer the principles of lust, anger, unlawful desires, avarice and bewilderment. To get freedom from anger, one should learn how to forgive. To be free from unlawful
desires one should not make plans. By spiritual culture one is able to conquer sleep. By tolerance only can one conquer desires and avarice. Disturbances from various diseases can be avoided by regulated diets. By
self-control one can be free from false hopes, and money can be saved by avoiding undesirable association. By practice of yoga one can control hunger, and worldliness can be avoided by culturing the knowledge of
impermanence. Dizziness can be conquered by rising up, and false arguments can be conquered by factual ascertainment. Talkativeness can be avoided by gravity and silence, and by prowess one can avoid fearfulness.
Perfect knowledge can be obtained by self-cultivation. One must be free from lust, avarice, anger, dreaming, etc., to actually attain the path of salvation."
From the Srimad Bhagavatam, Fourth Canto:
"The common man has to undergo much austerity to become equipoised before dualities. One who becomes agitated by the relativities of life has accepted a relative position and must therefore undergo the austerities prescribed in the sastras to transcend the material body and put an end to material existence. King Malayadhvaja underwent severe
austerities by leaving his home, going to Kulacala, taking his bath in the sacred rivers and eating only vegetables like stems, roots, seeds, flowers and leaves, avoiding any cooked food or grains. These are very,
very austere practices. In this age it is very difficult to leave home and go to the forest or the Himalayas to adopt the processes of austerity. Indeed, it is almost impossible. If one is even advised to give up meat-eating, drinking, gambling and illicit sex, one will fail to do so. What, then, would a person do if he went to the Himalayas or
Kulacala? Such acts of renunciation are not possible in this age; therefore Lord Krsna has advised us to accept the bhakti-yoga process.
Bhakti-yoga will automatically liberate a person from the dualities of life. In bhakti-yoga, Krsna is the center, and Krsna is always transcendental. Thus in order to transcend dualities, one must always
engage in the service of the Lord, as confirmed by Bhagavad-gita (14.26):
"One who engages in full devotional service, who does not fall down in
any circumstance, at once transcends the modes of material nature and
thus comes to the level of Brahman."
"A Vaisnava is personally tolerant for the benefit of others. When he does not show his prowess, this does not mean
that he is lacking in strength; rather, it indicates that he is tolerant for the welfare of the entire human society."
Hari Bol,
Hare Krishna Sumitra Malla Mate
If this was the case the 1st Person to ditch all of us would have been Paramatma Bhagavan.
Imagine the amount of patience, tolerance, determination, tactfulness, silence, scientific, awesomeness, opulences, renunciation (not as a sanyasi but His anger, displeasure etc) and Forbearing with which He is with all jivas in whichever body, whichever world, whatever that jiva is using the mind for(He is the mind as declared by Him in His Bhagavad Gita), with steadfastness He is with us constantly since eternity and till eternity (I pray he is relieved from this nonsense quickly my Dear Hrishikesha - Master of Senses. Let it not be till eternity. Let this end now)
Cant you take a small and tiny portion of His responsibility?
Even you want to ditch Him as most of us have done?
Think about it.
Best be with you.
SD
Hare Krishna Sumitra Malla Mataji, Please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
Each person with whom we have association in this life mean our own karma. If we are bound to associate with lier, lazy people then it is our bad karma which we have to tolerate and get some lesson. Good people are our good karma. As we know this life is like an exam. How to pass successfully those exams?
For example, our co worker is bad person and while associating with him we become angry and envious it means that we did not pass the exam. This situation will be repeated again and again in order to give us chance to clean our bad karma.
In order to pass the exam we need 4 main qualities:
1. to be humble than a blade of grass;
2. tolerant than a tree;
3. always to give respect to others;
4. not wait for respect to ourselves;
For example, husband maybe a drinker or with bad behaviors. How to deal with that?
We have to understand that it is only our own fault not other's. And do not blame others. But try to change ourselves.
Any one can be changed! There is no doubt! And good wife can make a stupid, fool, fearful husband wise and intelligent, fearless one.
When we have good qualities it automatically only people with the same consciousness will surround us.
People are our mirror. Showing with our one finger that he/she is bad other 3 fingers show us. So who is bad in trice?!
Your servant,
HariBol!!
:)