hare krishna dear devotees,
Please be kind enough to clarify my doubt. How does wearing tulasi necklace or neckbeads beneficial? can we wear everytime? can ladies on the impure days too?
can I give it to my small kids or should I wait till they grow up?
Please help me..
There is a nice video where Srila Prabhupad talks about eating meat.
Please watch this at http://nitaigauranga.com/
The video name is 'The Acharya Part 3'. video number 3.
Please accept my humble obeisances. All glories to Srila Prabhupada. All glories to guru and Gauranga.
Sorry to hear about your difficulties. Don't worry too much about the neck bead. As others suggested don't do anything against sadu, sastra and guru. Ask(pray) for help to all gods whom you have faith.
Specially pray to Chaitanya MahaPrabhu and Nityananda Prabhu, Mayapur Nrsimha dev who are extremely merciful and who can change anybody's mind.
Remember the most important thing is to chant Hare Krishna Maha mantra with Pancatatva mantra. If your family members have a practice of regular Sandya nama Japa, you can add this with it. Also try to play bhajans sung by pure devotees like Srila Prabhupada in your home as much as possible.
You can change others only by sincere love and compassion to others. Srila Prabhupada gave so much love, compassion and tolerance to this Americans that they became great Vaisnavas.
May be you can completely stop cooking non veg at home. If family members want it, let them go out and eat it. Or gradually reduce the frequency of cooking these things at home. This all depends on how cooperative are your house members. Some how or other discourage others from eating it. But don't make a scene of it. Some people need more time to understand anything.
If you are sincere Krishna will help you. It is sure. More than philosophy and logic, the holy name can fix all odd situations. So take every one to Krishna Conscious programs. Include more Krishna conscious friends in your family circle. Listen to or read Bhagavatam, Bhagavad Gita regularly. By regularly associating with Krishna Conscious devotees your family members also will get benefit.
If others are not co operating with you which is for their own benefit, you take care of your spiritual practice.
If you don't have a Tulasi plant at home, get one and take care of her. She will bless you and your family. Hare Krishna.
I had made a website purely for preaching purpose: http://nitaigauranga.com/ where I collected a mixture of different types of ISKCON programs to attract different types of people. For example you can show Harinam around the world.If this European and American people have accepted this philosophy, your people also may accept it. Ratha yatra festival, Music, Bhajans Philosophy directly from Srila Prabhupad; everything is there. Please try. Good Luck
thank you, pranhuji for your advise. I dont cook non veg at home. my family memeber either get it from out or my husband makes it.i neither have it nor make it.
What concerned me is that if they wear tulasi neckbead and have non veg, that will be like committing aparadh, right? I dont want to do that. During sandhya nama japa, my kids do chant hare krishna mahamantra along with me. they also know gayathri mantra, words still needs to be reformed, thats all. My family members do believe in Krishna. I tell my kids Krishna stories when they go to sleep. they love to hear Krishna's stories.
PAMHO. Thanks for the proper reply.
I think there is nothing much for you to worry.
About gayatri mantra: One has to get it from a bona fide spiritual master to chant it. This is my understanding. This you get when you get your brahmanical initiation.
thank you prabhuji for your help. the reason why I worry is because I have heard that wearing tulasi mala helps you regain your composure and handle stress at work. it also helps one from getting bad dreams and most important of all closer to my Krishna. I want my husband and kids to reach and be closer to Krishna along with me. MY kids, now itself I am trying to. when they are small, and when you teach them all about kanha, it is easier for them to remember than when they grow up.
That's why I badly wanted them to wear tulasi mala or bracelet. I have also heard that after wearing tulasi mala, the urge to eat meat will become drastically less. In other words, you wont feel like having it. But, I don't want to take that chance. So, asked for help
Thanks for opening your heart. You are a very nice person to think about others welfare. This is the true nature of a Vaisnava. Your family members are very fortunate to have a daughter, wife, mother, friend like you. Please keep it up.
For seeing bad dreams please chant:
before going to bed.
Chant few times if possible. Children will easily by heart this.
Also you can keep a picture of Lord Nrsimha (Mayapur) behind your head while sleeping so that you will not show feet towards the deity. You can down load plenty of Nrsimha deva photo from internet. Still you have difficulty, I may be able to help you.
Pray to Mayapur Nrsimhadeva . He is extremely kind. Many have experienced it.
You may like to read:
Also you can pray to Chaitanya Maha Prabhu who will not look at the qualification of any one.
He is so kind.
Hare Krishna Mathaji,
For the people who still want to have some feeling of wearing Tulasi beads, there come Neem beads.
You can find them in ISKCON. Wearing which gives the feeling of Tulasi. It is recommended that in starting if you have some doubts in commiting Aparadha, best is start with it and later on you can change to real 'Tulasi Beads'
Even tea is not recommended while wearing Tulasi. My advice would be to start Sunday Bhajans with people near to your house if you want glories to be spread. You and other interested can wear Neem Beads buying from any ISKCON temple.
Hope this helps.
Hare Krsna Mataji,
Tulsi neackbeads is acknowledging that we have a lord and master - God - Krsna. Once one wears the neckbeads, one is forbidden to eat anything contrary - no nonveg, alcohol, onion garlic can be taken. Once worn, these neckbeads should be worn all one's life. No restrictions on any days.
Children can be made to wear tulsi beads - with the conditions mentioned above. Atleast they shoudl be vegeterian, even if they cannot avoid onion garlic as of now.
Radha Rasamayi DD
thank you, mataji for your kind advise. however, to be frank, it increased my fear now. I wanted to give it to my kids and husband. but, the problem is we don't follow strict rules and regulations. but, we do pray to Krishna for His mercy. It might take time, I guess. my kids and husband do have non veg, not everytime, though. once in a while. onion and garlic, as you told mataji, kids have it.
So, it would be harmful if I make them wear tulasi neck beads, right? I don't want any harm coming on my family after wearing tulasi neckbeads. Now, I am scared to buy that as not sure whether my family will be able to follow the rules.
Hare Krsna Mataji,
It would be better to wait. Tulsi neckbeads is like a qualification. Let them earn it rathar than wear it and commit aparadh.
Try to steer your family out of non veg atleast. I am assuming you are cooking for your family - make a ground rule first. No non veg in the house. Whatever is cooked in your kitchen has to be offered and only then given to everyone to eat. Then naturally, you will make everything wihtout onion and garlic. If you can achieve this much, the rest will fall in place.
You can occassionally allow the kids to call for Dominos pizza or make Maggi, but gradually wean them ut of it. Keep telling them that eating nonveg means they are converting their stomach into a graveyard. How can they be at peace when the stomach is a graveyard?
Best of luck mataji. Journey for you is long and ardous right now. It will become easy if you chant 16 rounds of mahamantra daily with attention.
Radha Rasamayi DD