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Hare Krsna Prabhu jees and Mata jees!

PAMHO. All glories to Srila Prabhupada.

Seek advice.

We are a married couple. Due to my mistakes, we are staying separate. I am dragging the relationship due to kids almost to the point of ugliness.

The problem is that my kids have developed a sense of alienation towards me. They feel I will be strict with them (I was few 4 years back) if I come home. I grew up in India, they were born in US. 

I was raising them what I thought was right way at that time(taking a lead in life, so later they can enjoy). Being a father first time, I made mistakes even though my intent of securing future was good. As a result, my kids are self enabled and ahead of their age in terms of study and extra curricular and very responsible compared to kids around. But at the same time, they have developed an aversion for me. (I used to use force to stop them or make them study or discipline them. it has alienated them beyond repair as I see now.)

In India, we were raised in much more disciplined environment but in a different culture, perhaps my ways were wrong. Even though my kids are very nice and I do not feel like leaving but my being around is not helping them mentally or emotionally.

Will it be ok to walk out of their life, thereby enabling them to lead a normal life? One is 9 and other wil turn 6 soon. The older one is in question here.

What is the guideline on such a situation? Please provide social side as well, along with Dharma. I do not want them to break mentally or emotionally.

YS,

Sharanagat