Please Help me

Hare Krishna to all the fellow devotees,All glories to srilavprabhupad,Dear Devotees, please hear my predicaments,I'm a 17 year old living in Singapore, and before coming into Krishna Consciousness, which is about roughly 7 months, I had a very sinful habits of meat eating and watching explicit content and gratify my genital urges while watching those kind of degraded videos. After coming into KC, I completely stopped eating meat and remained as a celibate for good 5 months. Now it has came back to haunt me, no matter what I do, hear hari katha, chant 16 rounds, and distract myself, I just lost it. I was very happy that I thought I finally stopped it. But now all is lost. My spiritual life has gone down the drain and now I'm bewildered even if krishna or gauranga will even accept me. It's very hard for me, my parents are non devotees so they don't really favour my Krishna consciousness activities, my "friends" are not at all into spirituality, it's too pressuring for me. Everytime I try to chant, I have an enormous amount of guilt. I don't know why, even though I know it's all Maya, we are not this bodies and importance of semen retention, it's as though completely controlling me, despite my best efforts to chant. I have no association with vaishnavas as my parents don't allow me to. What can I do in this kind of circumstances? Will krishna accept me once more? Thanks a lot, Hare Krishna.

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  • Thank you prabhu, I will do my best. Hare krishna.
  • Thanks a lot prabhu for taking your time to explain, hare krishna.
  • sri guru gauranga jayatu.

    firstly dont think u can overcome ur bad habits overnight .u had made deep frienship with these tendencies from long even if u abandon them, they wont do so.they will come back to u again and again ( afterall these tendencies are powerful soldiers of maya).
    understand 1 analogy here :-
    suppose we are being attacked by enemies .we are constantly fighting. if we give up and compromise with them,they will leave us temporarily but they come back with more strength. they will not stop fighting with us untill they have plundered everything from us ( our youth,our time, our age,our opportunities for better life )
    --- < sameway wen the urges come ,we try to resist but then we giv up and indulge in them thinking by doing so the urge will stop. but by indulging we are adding fuel to the fire - its like telling these soldiers stop fighting and have some lunch. they will stop attacking u for sometime ,but the lunch ur providing them (by indulgence) will strengthen them more >___

    actually we are not enjoying pleasures,but they are enjoying us (although we constantly give pleasure to our body still they will not stop asking for more. by satisfying these senses gradually the time passes unseen and we become old. our body no more capable of enjoying but still the thirst for enjoyment has not grown older ;it is still young and energetic. even till the death comes, our body thirsts for sense pleasures.) thus we have completely ruined our life in this wild goose chase. at the end (death), if we look back and see what i have accomplished in my life, there is nothing to find. we hav simply lived like insects - we came into this world,grew up playing with other innocent kids, got marrief,begot children, lived all life searching after food & security ( body maintenence & comfort) then death came and wiped u out of ur relative reality. { have u seen the busy ants, always going here and there finding food & they are crushed! trampled under others feet.

    have u seen the busy bees visiting flowers all day long collecting honey .then someone comes & kills those bees & takes away that hard earned honey.

    what about the birds ,the street dogs & cats? what are they all busy in all through their life. have they any purpose in life? huh! what is the value of such life - simply maintaining the cage( body) and neglecting the hunger of the bird ( soul))
    then what? we are thrown down! where? - to insect life,animal life!!
    if we live lik animals in this rarely achieved human life , then nature will giv us animal life next.

    all those people u say that are not favourable to ur krsna consiousness are like this.they dont know wat is good for them. they are simply living a purposeless life ,simply busy in the rat race of this modern luxurious society - trying to get ahead of others in this rat race( material status improvement). they are simply running ,running running. where are they running? what destination? - question mark !! they cant answer. so dont take their ignorant advices seriously.

    therefore we must understand the danger we are in and seek help of those who are actually capable of.
    now addressing ur problems on bad habits, there is 1 solution.

    in our mind there is a good dog and a bad dog. both are barking and fighting with each other.
    whom do u want to win? - the good dog! .
    for the good dog to win, u have to feed more the good dog and starve the bad dog. then gradually the good dog will gain more energy and bad dog will become weak. then one day the good dog will win.
    good dog is ur positive side, by feeding it with k c engagements it will become stronger.
    bad dog is our bad habits - although they are strong now , if u continue starving it & feeding the other one gradually u will overcome ur bad habits.
    i hav spoken in a general way . if i know u more clearly then i can help u accordingly
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  • Thanks a lot for all your advises, I really hope I could do something in return for all these advices, Hare Krishna.
  • Go to Krishna, pray with all your sincerity that He forgive you, and then start getting better, prabhu.

    When you pray to Krishna, He listens. He cannot turn a deaf ear to His dear devotees.

    We all fall sometimes prabhu, this is why we are in the material world. We still have much to learn. Moments of suffering like this are actually a blessing, since they make us turn to Krishna and His devotees to help us.

    Krishna is so merciful prabhu. Just see for yourself how willingly He will accept you even after such sins. Repent, and praise Krishna for His mercy...

    And as other have said, association with devotees is crucial to spiritual life. It's a good thing you came here. It shows that you have a desire for spiritual life. You are so young prabhu, your life is going to change in ways you never thought possible. Keep chanting. Have faith.

    Hare Krishna
    Peace and love brother
  • E-Counselor

    Hare Krsna Dean Prabhu,


    This query is raised by a prabhu.

    Now pls give similar principle for vaishnava.


    Your servant,

    Radha Rasamayi DD

    • There is three solutions:

      -Leave the home and and live in the temple in the association of vaishnavas under the shelter of  Guru.

      -Leave everything far away and wander as homeless under complete shelter of Lord.

      -If he can not do one of this two, then for sore he need to get married and start family life.


  • Hare krishna,

    Thanks a lot mataji, but my parents and my family members don't really let me mingle with vaishnavas, they say you can do all these when you are old, despite I try to convince them, they simply do not accept it. It's very tough here, there is no iskcon temple in Singapore, but there are vaishnavas in an area far from my home conduct iskcon activities. My parents don't allow me to go there. So I simply can't do anything, I only went there a few times and got a devotee's phone number so that I can whatsapp him. Regarding that unpleasant incident, I have promised krishna that I shall stop all that and watch only KC videos. I found out what triggered me to do that. I'm doing my best efforts to stop it. Regarding my eating habits, I still continue my vegetarian diet, only consume onion and garlic if my parents cook that, if not I will avoid it completely. Thanks a lot for hearing me out, I feel much better. Hare Krishna.
  • E-Counselor

    Hare Krsna Prabhuji,


    Pls dont be disappointed. Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu is most merciful. He came for us fallen souls only.

    Pls dont feel guilty at all - continue to chant ..... as in, it is correct to feel guilty, but not to the extent it interferes with sadhana. One has to continue to do sadhana whichever way one can - otherwise there is no hope for us.

    You have not mentioned association of devotees - that is most important. If you can somehow get into an association of devotees, your problem will be solved. What you can do is:

    a) Visit your local ISKCON temple and inquire about congregational development and specifically college preaching - if anything is happening.

    b) Connect with the congregation closest to your house or college and remain connected.

    c) Continue the existing - chanting, reading, keeping yourself busy.

    d) If possible, eat only vegeterian food - no onion, no garlic. If you cannot avoid onion garlic, atleast it should be vegeterian. If you endeavour to please Krsna by eating only vveg food without onion and garlic, I am sure Krsna will find some way for you to maintain that. A little struggle may be there in the beginning - it is just to test your resolve.

    Best of luck dear,

    Pls be in touch.


    Your servant,

    Radha Rasamayi DD

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