Hare Krsna to all Devotees,
Please accept my humble obeisance,
All Glories to Srila Prabhupad,
Sorry I am an ignorant and a beginner in KC. But these doubts have been lingering in my mind. It is said that we need to act as per shastras/ scriptures to avoid miseries and sinful life, at the same time work towards our main goal, ;Back to Godhead'
I am again stating these doubts because I didn't get a clear picture or I am still not convinced. It would be kind if devotees clear my doubt through simple scriptural references for my to refer further in case of any doubt.
This is just for my conviction
1) I need simple scriptural references stating that one man one wife as ideal for common man...considering kaliyuga, time, place and circumstances...a standard religious principle.
2) Is remarriage permitted for both man and woman as per scriptures.
3) What are the systematic religious duties of a common man/woman as per scriptures?
4) Is it right that as per shastras boy's age should be more than the girl while marrying?
Sorry, I am repeating my questions once again in this discussion.. Just need a clear and simple answers to be convinced and lead a knowledgeable life.
Haribol
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in Kali Yuga it is very difficult to provide with proper food a single wife along with few kids then what to speak of many wives????
On the contrary some husbands send wives to work and earn money because of lack of money. So where is the question of polygamy? Yes, why these days almost all girls study hard and after marriage do job? It is because husbands can not perform their duties (not all husbands but basically it is happening so)
Husband's main duty is to provide family financially and wife's duty to use all goods very economically not wasting food, cloth...
But all those besides 'wives' or else lovers is only sense gratification. One who enjoys his or her life having lovers besides will get reaction soon or later.
Your servant,
it is better. Because by nature's arrangement girls become intelligent little earlier than man so it will be difficult for them to be with man who is not yet matured.
Because till 25 age in man all energy goes for muscles and body building but in woman for hormonal changes. So they become mature earlier than men.
Also it is very good if wife respects husband but she can not respect someone who is less intelligent, immature...
But in some cases if wife voluntarily accepts lower position then it is ok. Voluntarily she becomes submissive to a not yet matured husband, if she is humble to that state then they will be happy.
Your servant,
Man and woman unite their lives in order to protect each other from prostitution and cooperating together serve to whole society.
So the main duty of a wife is to help her husband in his duties and husband's duty is to be responsible, protect his family and serve to society.
As per scriptures we see King Dasharath fighting for his kingdom and giving protection to that and once he took his wife Kaikeya so while he was fighting in difficult situation she paste her finger among the wheels of a chariot and saved her husband's life.
Also we know Devahutti while her husband was performing spiritual austerities she used to do menial services like washing for him, cooking, fasting along with him...in this way she was doing her own duties and husband his duties before God and later because she was chaste and selfless Kardama Muni fulfilled desires of his wife also.
So husband may be in one ashrama as like brahmana or kshatriya or shudra so wife's duty, dharma is to help her husband in his dharma ashrama.
Your servant,
if wife is chaste she won't marry if it happened her husband died or they got divorced.
But only in very extreme cases woman could marry second time by the permission of Guru or else it is considered as uncivilized.
According to Chanakya Pandit wife is enemy of a family if she marries second time. Son is enemy if he is fool. Father is enemy if he has debts.
Your servant