NEWLY MARRIED COUPLE

hare krishna to all devotees,

i got married few months back and then i went abroad. in may this year i went to temple in ISKCON.i was deeply motivated by its principals and joined hare krishna movement.

i started following 4 regulative principals. i used to eat non veg except beef n also drink occasionally.

i have quit all.i am doing daily 16 rounds of Hare Krishna Mahamantra.i really like doing JAPA.

now i have one confusion . my wife is coming in few days to me.

i was reading some literature related to ISKCON in which it was written that a man can have only sex with a wife only once in a month when she has got periods n man should have sex only thinking of producing krishna conscious children n not for personnel sense gratification.

is it possible if cpls are newly married ????????? in this kaliyuga?? can we control our body desires to so much extent ??? i think its very difficult to control our body desires specially if u r newly married.

and its natural for opposite sexes to mate.

even if i say i do chant how i can convince my partner please??? ( she does not know anything abt me joining ISKCON n following 4 regulative principals)

even maneka disturbed vishwamitra n broke her tapasya.

what srila prabhupada said regarding sex life for newly married grasthas please?

please advance devotees in grahstha ashram reply.

Hare Krishna

Hare Krishna dear Devotees, please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

If we say have sex as much as You want then we are telling to You to kill Yourself. So we have to be honest.

Union with wife is only for inviting a soul to take a human body.

But for nothing else.

Because of that boys were trained before marriage how to control the senses by getting higher taste.

Now what can be done? Better way is to give a child to Your wife, and You Yourself perform Your duties and provide them with protection. When we are occupied with our duties and do them for the pleasure of Krishna then lust will decrease.

If we say some other thing then that will be a lie.

Your servant,

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Priyanka Kapoor November 6, 2013 at 10:29pm

Haribol.dandavat pranam.PAMHO.
I agree with kiran prabhuji since I hsd faced the same problem. My husband is not a devotee and its natural to ask for having sex from the opposite sex out of ignorance. If u refuse to hv then that may create fights and misunderstandings. You listen to her and do what she likes. Don't even lecture her about Krishna conscious n all.she wont understand. slowly u bring her to the temple n give her maha prasad often. Slowly she will also start following KC. Dont forget to pray to Krishna n hv a strong desire for wife to bcme Kc.
Hk. Your servant
Kiran kumar epari October 17, 2013 at 5:58pm

Thats a very tough situation which many devotees must be facing, who are married, esp the newly married..I think its not that easy to completely avoid sex with wife, as even if a male devotee tries to avoid unwanted sex, wife may feel disappointed and may be interested in casual sex just for sense gratification. So its better to have natural sex with wife sometimes, and to avoid having frequent sex, and also think it as a part of duty to fulfill the desire of the partner..Also in due course, one should sincerely try to convince wife also to become krishna conscious..then the problem will be solved very easily
- utsav roy > Kiran kumar epari October 18, 2013 at 5:31pm
  
  I like your idea. But if it isn't authorised, we can't follow it. If someone is KC before marriage, he should marry a devotee. But if someone discovers KC after marriage, i don't see any other way except what you've just said. We have to build a Krishna-centric family, in order to do that we have to have our wives beside us. So we should pray to Krishna that wife be it newly married or old understands and acknowledges and loves Krishna, and live by the 4 regulatory principles and improve their spiritual like as well as help improve ours!
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Mohini Madhavi October 17, 2013 at 2:56pm

Hare Krishna dear Devotees, please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

If we say have sex as much as You want then we are telling to You to kill Yourself. So we have to be honest.

Union with wife is only for inviting a soul to take a human body.

But for nothing else.

Because of that boys were trained before marriage how to control the senses by getting higher taste.

Now what can be done? Better way is to give a child to Your wife, and You Yourself perform Your duties and provide them with protection. When we are occupied with our duties and do them for the pleasure of Krishna then lust will decrease.

If we say some other thing then that will be a lie.

Your servant,
nischalinn October 17, 2013 at 9:40am

Hare krishna prabhuji,
dandawat pranam
PAMHO.

Thank you for putting this question. Many couples have this confusion. Your question will guide many grihasthas.

You can ask your authority about your confusion and put the suggestions here.

I would like to request all the advance grihasthas devotees to have their comments here.

hare krishna!!!

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