Please read my story with a calm mind although its long but i want to keep all my feelings in front of devotees:-
1. In 2016 i got married when i came in the house just after 1 month i started supporting my husband and was doing all household work alongwith my job.
2. At that time i have to pay Rs275000 of loan of my husband which he has acquired to arrange the marriage.
3. I used to get up at 5'o clock in the morning prepare food and when come in the evening at 7pm prepare food.
4. My mother in law always critisized me that this food is not good or tasty or doesnt have tomato namak mirch etc so many complaints.
5.Then after 2 months my mother in law's neiece marraige scheduled to be happened.
6. She asks my husband to gift Rs.25000/- bed my husbands earning at that time was only Rs.21000/- even then he arranged everything she asked for and she spent near about Rs.70-80k in that marriage and doesn't care about my husband's loan.
7. When i started arguing that why so much money is spent please take care of money spent according to earnings. She started abusing me like randi kutiya kamini tere pese pe thhuu he.
8. Now the situation is our house sold now we are shifted to a rented house. I have a 10 months daughter. My husband's job is lost he is struggling for the job.
9. My mother in law 2-3 months back asked for Smartphone and my husband again fulfilled her wish.
10.I am earning and so my house is running.
11.My mother in law daily goes to ISKON temple and sometimes waste food of the house. That ISKON temple very frequently organises dinner or lunch and my mother in law doesn't care about food cooked at home and eats lavish dinner in the temple.
12.My question is if someone goes to ISKON temple whether he/she gets licence to do anything wrong to any person? And we are not suppossed to feel victim or grow hatred just because she goes to temple.
13. Many of you have suggested to question her face to face i had in the past nothing happened only home peace disturbed.
14. Navratri are coming whenever we goes to temple she accompany us and i am bound to take her along. Then my heart filled with so much hatred that she did not do for her children she is so selfish even then she is enjoying spiritual life and on the other hand my parents are there.
15.My father is retired my mother is school teacher and working and alone does all the household work. Living in a very low quality house suffers the pain of summer, rain, winter as the roof is open. They didi everything for us and are living with so many obstacles in the life and that too alone.
16. On the other hand my mother in law is there used her childeren for her selfish motives even then god is supporting her don't know why.
WHY SO MUCH INJUSTICE IS THER PLEASE HELP
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PAMHO.
Again I am saying, your approach towards the whole thing has to be examined.
Pls tell me what you are looking for? What is your purpose of coming to a forum and publicly talking about what is going on in your house - about the "injustices" by your in laws on you. What do you want to prove? That you are the only or first lady to go through problems from inlaws in India?
What do you want from us?
Please write to me at rashmi.khaitan@ril.com. Then I will give you my number if required.
This way you are achieving nothing.
Committing suicide? Frankly - its your choice. Aisa koi problem nahi hai jiska solution nahi. Aur aapka to bahut chota problem hai - YES - believe me. Your problem doesn't even count as problem in the eyes of many, who has seen PROBLEMS.
I am not trying to belittle your problems at all. Just trying to give you a perspective from a different angle.
You calm down - I can help you in that also.
COntact me.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Radha Rasamayi DD
Regarding wasting money, if that gives you happiness, go ahead. After all, your hard earned money, your choice what you want to do with it.
If you want to help your situation, listen. For that you have to come to a level where you are able to listen when we say something.
Again your choice whether you want to do this or not.
Solution is there - you don't want. There are some people who are happy being sad, who think shaadi karna Shaheed hona ek hi baat hai. Again your choice.
God does not give us bitter experiences to make us bitter. He gives us bitter experiences to make us better. Life is all about converting an adversity into an opportunity. The journey is knowing how to do it. Sometimes one may need help.
Haribol.
If you handle this situation properly, I see your mother in law becoming your biggest support system and both of you growing to care for and love each other, such that she will miss you and you will miss her when she is gone. I know you are laughing at me now, it is possible,
Pati parameshwar handling is a different ball game altogether. That we will discuss separately.
Why blame and hate mother in law alone, when husband is proving to be her son and not your husband.
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