hare krishna dandavat pranam
please share some information regarding emotions that generate between male and female when one is attracted to each other rather than in sexual manner they experience some kind of love infact it is not love but is just fantasizing only but may people say that we are not just attracted for sex pleasure infact we are attracted by emotions how can we explain the solution for that people convincing them it is ultimately krsna who is our heart to heart frnd
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Genuine love is not concerned with personal gain, but rather with the quality of the exchange between those involved. When we think only of ourselves, trying to arrange matters to get what we want, we are not expressing love. Unconditional love is never based on trying to receive anything. Instead, it is an experience of giving and a joyful activity in which each participant strives to share more generously than the other.
Love has nothing to do with exploitation. It is not a business deal or an accounting system that requires the actions of one person to be balanced by those of another. Instead, love expresses genuine concern for the well-being of others.
Love Is Not a Feeling. nor does it depend on any external conditions. Real love is divine, and cannot exist separately from the source, which is God.
Love Is Not Always Pleasant. Since love is not defined by our pleasant feelings, pain can be an integral part of love. Although most of us would prefer to experience happiness and eliminate pain from our relationships, this attitude is based on a desire to satisfy our senses. Genuine love can indeed bring us great happiness, yet it can also cause extreme suffering. It is a paradox that love, the most healing force there is, can also make us so vulnerable to pain. Pasted from :
Swami, Bhakti Tirtha. Spiritual Warrior II: Transforming Lust into Love (Kindle Locations 966-967). Hari-Nama Press. Kindle Edition.
The definition of love is selfless giving expecting nothing in return.
All that we do in this material world is only give and take which is nothing much business. We label it for our convenience as love. Becoz we donno really what is love. Love is that which God showers us unconditionally. The term unconditionally means in any condition..any circumstances his love showering wouldn't stop.
Let us say you say u love a woman today. tomorrow she turns ugly fat ur love which was for her changes with time or let us say.. she started to love someone else other than u would u still love her ?? But Lord God's love is unconditional. It wont change even if u become old, even if u become a rogue or thief or beggar or king. His love wouldn't change even if u stop loving him back and love someone else other than HIM.
Example for HIS unconditional love is Rain, sunshine, all others naturally occurring phenomenon like even ur breath ( life air) DOES HE( GOD) do any partiality?? while showering his love in the form of these ?? NOPE He supplies air , water , sunshine equally to all even if u were a thief or even if u were a beggar or king. His love is not changeable!!!!!!This selfless love of HIS doesn't expect anything in return. DID HE ever ask you to love HIM back? NOPE God's love is only selfless giving.
The tint of it could be seen in parents love for their own children. Even parents love cannot be same for all the children sometimes. When the child is incapable of surviving they care for that child much more then the other child who is capable to survive in the world.
Basically , Love is only selfless giving asking nothing in return. What u see between male and female is attachment give and take business. And the emotions and all that drama to make this business possible is only to make u feel secure that he or she belongs to only you. This is inturn breeding false ego that I am this body and the other person is my possessions my wife, my gal friend , my my my. This only adds to ur false ego.
But in fact love is only God's love. the unconditional love.
Hare Krishna.
Again i say first you yourself become perfect and then preach others becoz any one can get attracted and then ppl will label you as hypocrite. A lot of ppl lost faith in kc after aasaram bapu and other babas were put in jail. SO BEST IS TO REMAIN SILENT
Please read "Spiritual Warrior II : Transforming Lust into Love" by Bhakti Tirtha Swami. It covers the topic very nicely and answers all questions, it's available on Kindle