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Is marriage important?

Posted by cindrella on April 1, 2010 at 1:51pm
Hare Krishna!
Lord Krishna says in The Bhagavad-gita 'Prescribed duties should never be renounced. If one gives up his prescribed duties because of illusion, such renunciation is said to be in the mode of ignorance. Anyone who gives up prescribed duties as troublesome or out of fear of bodily discomfort is said to have renounced in the mode of passion. Such action never leads to the elevation of renunciation.' My doubt is 'is marriage important in todays life where there is a need of a compatible partner who can adjust in all situations? As there are 4 stages in a human life, one of them being "grihasta ashram". It is also one of the prescribed duty of a human being according to the Vedas. So is it compulsary to enter into a married life?

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  • suraj parkash sehgal September 3, 2010 at 2:20am
    Hari Hari Bol

    I apriciate to Swaroop prabhu that he gives a Marverlous description on this Discussion.
    Very simple words and very nice description. I realy praise all this Hari Hari bol.

    Hari hari bol hari hari bol....
  • Lalita Sakhi September 2, 2010 at 12:08am
    This to everyone who replied..
    The Matter here is no longer a subject. I don't need a lecture on marriage etc..

    hare krnsa
  • Amrita Saxena September 1, 2010 at 12:11pm
    Dear Maheshji,

    I totally agree to your point. But i have a query. Total samarpan to Krishna is doubtless. But total samarpan to husband is something which i am confused about. Typically a situation when i dont know how the guy would be......definitely after marriage when i know the guy..full samarpan is still possible.

    Please dont misunderstand that i am talking about equal rights or something....but thing is how do i practically devote it to the person i dont know.

    Or does it mean that samarpan to Krishna and automatically i will get devoted to my husband. Our comments are really important...please advise
    • lalit singh > Amrita Saxena September 1, 2010 at 12:54pm
      first thing first, if you have totally surrendered to Lord Krishna only good will hapeen to us. No doubt about it. Sometines krishna mercy is negative( especially when devotee thinks he is not helping).bt his mecy is always us there to uplift us spiriritually. Surrender means Krishna will take charge of our life personally and when Krishna has taken charge then what is the need to worry. If krishna has decied to give you something nobody in 3 worlds can stop it and if decided otherwise nobody can stop it. There is no room for anxiety when we have surrendered at lotus feet our beloved lord.

      And who says samarpan to husband is required, nowdays in kaliyug only ladies rules their husband.( just Kidding). just surrender and take care of krishna , the rest he will take care. trust lord of universe if he has to make you surrender to somone , he can do it in just a fraction of second. jai shree radhe
  • NitaiGaur Premanande August 30, 2010 at 3:43pm
    If we know someone who would really help us progress in devotional service, we should definetly go for marriage. But if we get into the institution just for the sake of sense gratification, we would have to pay the price of our devotion. We have to really cut off all our sense gratification and focus it towards the sense gratification we get from keeping Krsna as our only purpose. We can chant, hear, talk and read about the Lord. Gradually Krsna will give us the intelligence to understand that material world is a misery, its all giving you false promises and u will always fall down trying to satisfy ur senses. If our devotion is progressing then , the same situation when we fall down in front of maya, it will change, u will win with ur effort by Krsnas mercy. But we have to make Krsna the centre. Maya is very strong or else beauty is just skin deep, and really we are made of flesh, blood, stool, urine and other disguisting things we carry. Its amazing how these things get arranged and provide such a powerful effect, which is the energy of the maya, who wants us to repeatedly circle in this repeated cycle of death. Its due to our decesion of enjoying our senses that we are here, now we have to decide either Go back to Krsna, or get into the 8.4 million species, wherein ull be just forced to get into any one of them as per your karma and you wont have the intelligence to think, but just be butchered till u again attain the human form. This time is really precious, and we have to work on our subconcious very hard, its really powerful and it acts in hidden way, we just become a puppet in its hand, so being KC, chanting the Lords name , serving devotees all will help us get back in understanding ourselves. Only Krsna can help us with our intrests, we have to be genuinely surrendered to Krsna, we cant fool Krsna cause he is sitting inside our heart as parmatma.
  • RAO RAGHAVENDRAN GOVINDA August 18, 2010 at 8:25pm
    HK THE ANSWER IS NO. MARRIAGE TO THE LORD'S PASTTIME IS MORE IMPORTANT AND WHEN YOU ARE ITH THE LORD WHERE DO YOY GET TIME FOR MATERIAL ACTIVITY. IF U ARE GOVERNED BY THE FIVE SENSES THEN MARRIAGE IS WAY TO FULFILL THE DESIRE AND AFTER GOING THROUGHIT U HAVE TO RETURN TO GOD HEAD. THESE ARE MY PERSONAL VIEW SOME DEVOTEES/BRAMCHARI CAN ADD MORE VALUE ON THE MOST IMPORTANT TURNING POINT IN ONE'S LIFE IN THE EASTERN PHILOSOPHY
    • lalit singh > RAO RAGHAVENDRAN GOVINDA August 30, 2010 at 11:46am
      Marriage is union between two souls, and it is sacred sanskar. sex is just one part of it. for choosing life partner one shoudl just check wether they both have a psychological and intellectual affinity towards each other.how would great people have come into this earth, had their parents not gone through procreation process???. Marriage is a sacred sanskar, what important is detachment, duniya mei rehte hue bhi nahi rehna, thats the skill , a self realised man can remain Brahmachari even after his marriage? marriage and brahmacharya is duality? we have to rise above it. in the end it all depends on individual
  • Amrita Saxena August 6, 2010 at 3:20pm
    Very well narrated
  • Amrita Saxena August 6, 2010 at 3:18pm
    there was a reason why Sitaji had to prove herself and the reason was that she being daughter of earth...she had to go back home..now we may term it to be any thing else. But some times i really wonder...the kind of patience she has...nonetheless consider Godess Earth...the kind of patience she has...we constantly use it..walk on it..run, do what all things but she is calm...so instead of getting into discussions like "Today's women getting into lot of things (so called adultery) to be independent"..lets appreciate the beauty of woman..the way she is patient, calm, thoughtful,loving (be it mother, sister, wife, friend, selfless....

    I also know and agree that some women get into some karmas which may not be acceptable to the society but end of the day "its her karmas" and may be she is not learned (spiritually) to understand her acts and its impact on the society. Courtesy demands that we dont discuss such things here and genuinely help them understand the pros and cons...

    Well my views are not to hurt / to be offensive against any one....

    Please correct me if i m wrong

    All glories to Lord Vishnu

    Amrita
    • suraj parkash sehgal > Amrita Saxena August 20, 2010 at 12:43am
      Hare Krhsna radha rani ji
      Here is the discussion is on is marriage is important. your views i have read. i agree with you. This is PURUSH PARDHAN SAMAZ. But We must give the respect to ladies. Now this is important that marriage gives a protection to ladies. it is also important to develop of society for the men. It gives to men and women peace protection growth and happiness in the life of both. Marriage also give a social respect to the couple.
      All glories of shri shri radhe shyam sunder ji
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