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Hare Krishna!

I had a question , hoping any fellow bhakt would clarify..

I am a brahmin woman.. in love with a rajput man.. 

we've been together for 10 years now.. and I've already considered him as my husband in my head..

My parents won't agree for the relation, because they think he's of a lower caste and we can't be together..

The man i love, has no other bad habit, other than being from a different caste..

And my parents are so adamant on not making me marry him, to a point they can commit honour killing as well.. because in Haryana I am a matter of pride and it'll break their pride to accept your daughter's lover, they say they'll be proud after killing both of us, but never if i even think of marrying him.

His father is bedridden and had 3 heart attack, he's the sole earner, even then my parents threatened him of killing him and his father and saying very disrespectful things to her mother.

his family is ready to accept me, but mine said that take her and we'll cut all ties with her..

after all this happened, i promised them to marry any brahmin guy they present, because I don't want to hurt his family as well because of me..

But, even if I marry someone of their choice, i'll never be able to take that man as a husband, he'll just remind me of how my feelings were crushed by my family to protect their PRIDE, not their daughter.

He always will be an another man for me.. and for every human desire he'll have, I'll never serve him as a wife.. rather just as a friend and for everything else he'll have to look outside the marriage.

Is it right to do?