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Hare krishna Prabhujis and Matajis,
All glories to Srila Prabhupada!
Dear devotees,
I would like to discuss one situation where a non devotee has fallen in love with a devotee. the non devotee is a boy who is hindu, vegeterian and their family deity is Shree Radha Govinda.He visits ISCKON temple when ever gets time and having inclination towards spirituality but he is not sure of becoming a devotee as there are certain rules he has to follow in day to day life but his profession can create hurdle and he doesnt want to disrespect the rules by not following it properly.
But he really likes a devotee girl and she is from another country. Can a non devotee marry a devotee if the non devotee by heart respects everything about krishna conciousness and want to support her in every possible way and on the other hand are devotees allowed to marry a non devotee?
what could be the possible solution to situation ?
I pay my humble obeisances to all the prabhus and matajis to guide me in this issue, I want to help a friend.
Haribol!
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Unalike any of the other Gods
Krishna is not predictable because He is not limated to any particular energy's. Most/all other incarnation's have/show, distint energy-preffremces . However KRishna does not, I think it's safe to say that like Vishnu' Krishna does prefer the energies of goodness but He Krishna is not alarmed by the other energy modes of passion or ignorance eather, Krishna is complicated. Krishna has generously reviled the devotional mood best suited for re-vitalizing our long lost relationship with Himself, however, He tends to be accepting of other approaches to engaging in reciprocal relationships other than Unconditional Unlimited Love, that is Simply the best approach because it is the most natural & therefore the most pleasing to the Spirit. But Krishna is engaging on all platforms *for the Devotees sake. As we appear to Him from all directions & with all mannor of lingering habbits & learned preffremces. Yes Krishna is complicated mysterious bersatile & engaging. And it's safe to say for all of Hi's diverce qualitys & being the (formost master & ecpert of them all
He is certainly the most amazing of all amazing personalities! I believe !
Krishna is not limated nor predigest!
Haray Haray Bollah, Nahmah Hay
Vishnu' Ram Nahmah Hay.
Krishna chose for me to go out from the temple circumstance in so many overt and subtle ways & I did marry a non devotee after She served me for a ( very*very long) time.
As I was raised into a culture steeped in the myah of ignorance & ill/un-qualified Placebo* So-call Religious coulters.
it is the one probation of cow killing and wearing that I forbid in a nuptial relationship with me. Other than that I'll allow time to teach all souls at their own pace of acceptance of the different degrees of the absolute/conclusive truth.
I realize that I can only keep my own personage-pure and conches and free, that the Souls are immortal &experience is the foremost teacher anyway even if that is a 2end. class intelligence. Anyway that is not your circumstance yours is one to envy. The only question I have is why haven't you gone (all in)* on this opp. the wed a bhaktee? Relationships are' always a gamble, they may Out-Live you and Honor you with (pomp and circumstance) after you're gone,
Or they just might stab you in the spiritual spine contaminating and shaming you and your whole families name and fame do to their daily Dance with the Devils surrounding us and within their own subtle mind's attitudes?
Thus-Trust (at last) is all we have AND OUR OWN BEHAVYOURS to cement our affairs in divinity & with God.
my point is' in the end you are, I am, & we all have to face eternity relatively alone and we will' shape our own destiny's by our own competence towards providing SERVICE for Krishna's association. My Living experience} of your hypothetical situation has sobered me away from the fanatical (Love*Festival) going on in all religions and anchored my thinking into the understanding that wherever I happen to be my relationship with this creation is not one hedging on fear and obedience as much as it is on reliant upon on the truth that authenticity will serve me as well if not more-so than fanatically pretending to be something or someone that I am not. A-parentally Krishna doesn't mind diversity. However, as I said if I had a women that would actually have the skills or desire to reach out to the {Head-Gods} in this life or the next I'd be on Her like Her-own-skin. As it is I'm dealing with more in-action in action than Action in inaction from my mate. There is no faith where there is no experience of the truth so I'm expecting nothing spiritually from my Dogmatic Spouse in this life nor the next That is indeed* my job! Haray Haray Bollah* ISKCON BHAKTI 10,000 YEARS jI sRI sRI (hdg)& RAHDAH-CHATONYAH & NE-TY Hari
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Hare Krsna Prabhuji,
PAMHO.
There are no restrictions that devotees cannot marry non devotees or vice versa. Like you are saying, this man in question is willing to adjust to the ways of his wife, if she marries him. So there is no issue. I would still make them talk, let her tell him her entire sadhana routine so that there are no surprises in the future and he can think clearly whether he can adjust. See, most men in India think girls are doing so much puja paath to get a good husband, and once they marry, they will immerse themselves in family. In effect, this is just a time pass. Actually, it is a way of life. That this man has to understand. If after understanding, he is willing to adjust, then this marraige is good, should happen.
At the same time, the girl has to understand that all the adjustments will not be made by the boy and his family, she has to major adjustment after marraige. It may entail adjusting the sadhana routine as well. She has to be realistic and not sit on a high pedestal because she is a devotee. She has to understand that the boy and his family are future devotees, and she can make them present devotees with her behaviour.
Like Pritam prabhu mentioned, going to a senior devotee for guidance at this juncture would be good.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Radha Rasamayi DD
Answer: Talk to a councellor in ISKCON temple nearby.
First of all you have to be concerned about Krishna. When you want to marry a devotee girl then the basis of your relationship is only Krishna. Your Grihasta life is centred around Krishna. So the best thing one can do in this subject matter is you try becoming a devotee if you truly love someone. Because when you love someone you want to serve the other person. Atleast in this case you try to connect your life with Krishna Conciousness. Life Is just amazing when your life is revolving around Krishna. When you get married then you both work for the spiritual upliftment of each other.
Hari Bol,
I hope I have cleared even a small amount of your query.
Hare Krishna