Respected Prabhu ji's - Hare Krishna!! AGTSP!!

I seek your views and advise on the matter of How to being family ( wife and kids ) also in Krishna Consciousness?

I was fortunate to get association of few wonderful KC devotees around an year back and since them I'm trying my best to engage in KC. I started chanting this Feb with 1 round, and gradually increased the number and from this Janmashthmi I'm doing 8 rounds daily. I visit weekly classes by one of Prabhu ji in our area, try visiting temple, listen lectures online, play bhajans, kirtans on music system, however my wife and 2 kids ( they are 6 & 8 ) are not very much intrested in chanting and all other stuff. I would not say she is an Atheist, as she prays daily for a few mins after lighting ghee lamp ( this too she misses sometimes ), but not getting into KC. Like when I ask her to join me in weekly classes, she says no in terms of that I have to teach kids, cook dinner etc., but never objects or creates hurdles on whatever I do in terms of chanting, attending classes etc. I hope you understand what I'm trying to explain here.

Now under this situation:

  • Is there any problem in this current situation?
  • How to bring her and kids too in KC?
  • In worst case, if she does not join me in KC, is this a problem for me in my advancement in future?
  • I mean, in this worst case, will I be able to sail alone on this journey?

Please provide your divine inputs.

Thanks.

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  • Hare krishna

    PAMHO 

    u may bring other member off a family by offering them maha prasadam,which has been offered to krishna or a true devotee of krishna.U may also ask them to chant Hare krishna Krishna Maha mantra.At least family members should offer

    their obeisances at the alter to krishna. Many people are interested in folk tales, u may reveale them krishna's fast time.

  • hare krishna prabhus and matajis.

    please accept my humble obeisances.

    all glories to srila prabhupada.

    i,the most insignificant soul want to opologise to all the prabhus and matajis

    i gave reply to this discussion on wednesday.

    but i forgot to mention that bhaktivedant swami srila prabhupad is a pure devotee.

    pure devotee purifies souls who come in contact with them.purity is the force.

     please forgive me.

    i have no qualification to be a part of this mission                                                                                                         ur insignificant servant

     nitin

  • Hare Krishna Anurag Prabhu, please accept my humble obeisances!

    All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

    Prasadam eating is very necessary. If they eat prasadam they will purify gradually. All the family should be eating prasadam everyday. Prasadam is the mercy of the Lord for this age who is not chanting also. It is your hope also.

    For this you need to have a little altar at home and you should start worshipping, so they could start to eat and get purify by the mercy of the prasadam. Lord is tasting this food only for our benefit, for this purpose. Please use this opportunity, then your chances are stronger.

    Prabhupada soo many times told this; we should be eating prasadam and nothing else mundane. It is very clear.

    Another weapon is worshipping Tulasi devi. If she takes care of her, and circumambulate daily she will be devotee most probably. Tulasi devi is living here in this material world only for this purpose. She, herself is the association of a pure devotee. To have her is serving a pure devotee at home. The best kind of association. So,

    praying to the Lord for your family, worshipping at home, offering bhoga and eating prasadam and worshipping Tulasi at home will be the instant remedy if they are not chanting yet.

    Be strong, be sweet, be understanding with them. Don't insist or use force this is very offensive for them and for the Lord. If you become a wonderful person with good devotee quualities, very happy and joyful they will be naturally attracted to this science of God. You should be always very consistent from the very beginning and never change your behaviour for them. They should understand that this subject is very very serious.

    Your aspiring servant,

  • hare krishna prabhu.please accept my humble obeisances.srila prabhupada ki jay.

    when srila prabhupada went to western countries,he started attracting western people to devotional service.

    in the beginning days he never said to them that krishna is the supreme personality of godhead and he is ur god and you accept him as ur god. 

    rather he used to start hari naam kirtan and engage them in kirtans.after finishing kirtan he would give them prasad of lord krishna.

    so prabhupadji did this trick in the initial days.because of kirtans and prasad the hearts of these people started becoming purified gradually.

    after some purification of heart,they started accepting or realising that krishna is their god/lord.

    so some purification of heart is important in ones life to accept krishna.

    i just want to say that a devotee must use the weapon of krishna prasad to bring someone (may be his wife,children,relatives) to the platform of devotional service.

    krishna prasad is very very powerful to purify ones heart.

    so a devotee must give krishna prasad to his family members repeatedly.

    KRISHNA MAHAPRASADAM KI JAY

                                                                         ur servant 

                                                                         nitin

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    Hare Krishna Anurag Prabhu, please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

    When Prabhu - husband is strong then naturally wife obeys to him. 

    And here the word "strong" does not mean only physical strength but spiritual. One can become strong when one controls his senses. To control senses means at least 4 regulative principles and minimum round of Japa regularly.

    And when she respects You children also will respect You for whole life. She is a teacher for Your kids. And it is very important if she assists You.

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    And how preach to her?

    Women do not need much. By nature they like their home, children, husbands shelter. They like to cook to serve.

    And husband's duty is to engage her in these services. As a price for their service they need only few appreciative words and some attention.

    In his lecture HH Radhanath Swami told that love is expressed by giving attention to the details. Such like love for husband and wife someone may consider as useless thing in spiritual life and in preaching but it is the only way to open the heart of other people. First they see our qualities and then hear our words and accept them.

    Example for details might be: to give to her flower sometimes, to say good things when You see house clean and fresh, to thank her for washed clothes, for a tasty food...

    To remember her birthday and to give some small gifts etc.

    And at the same time to do Your own duties as a protector: giving spiritual knowledge, taking the family members to the Sunday programs, maintaining it materially...

    Krishna gave You the role of a Guru and You have to be serious, isn't it?!

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    But even though if You do all these for many years and there is not good response then leave it to Krishna. You did Your best and Krishna will take care of results whether good or bad. 

    Even if she does not accept Krishna Consciousness You can help her by progressing in spiritual life Your self. As like Tukaram Maharaj did. As like Shrila Prabhupada did. 

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    But there are many wives who assisted their Devotee husbands also.

    For example, there is one initiating Guru in Russia HG Chaitanya Chandra Charan Prabhu. Nearly half of whole Russian Devotees took shelter at his feet. He is a disciple of HH Jaypataka Maharaj and his wife assists him in his service. They live in vanaprastha ashram.

    Your servant, 

    • Hare Krishna,

      Though right now im single, i feel i may also face this similar kind of problem in future as prabhuji said.. Mataji, you answered very nicely, most appropriately.. Many a times i look at ur replies in the questions coz you answer very appropriately, to the point..

       

      Your servant

    • Hari Bol Mata ji..first of all many thanks for this wonderful response to my query...you have hit the right chord...I'm really struggling in my personal life in maintaining a very healthy, good, loving relationship with my wife, probably due to my fault finding nature..which I know is not good....I have a lot to tell you about my issues and from your reply it seems you will be able to show me some guiding light, in this context is there anyway I can  sort of contact you via email or something and share my concerns with you and seek your expert advice? It will be a great help..My email id is sangalanurag@yahoo.com.

      Your servant,

      Anurag

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