Hare Krsna,

This is more of a personal issue. I am a college student and I am facing issues with diplomacy around me. How should any devotee deal with it.

In detail: Since long I have been admitted to the college, I am facing problems with one particular man. He is a classmate, but he is an expert diplomat. Some how he has managed to bring all of the class and teachers to opinion and image of his favour. Now, he doesn't have some good terms with me, and I kind of avoid this person.

What is happening is: I came to know some rumours of statements which others say that I have said, but I never spoke such words. Constantly I am getting defamed for the words I have never said, things I never did. We have a class of 50, but now slowly 48 out of them are making friends with him, and all sideline me. Even the relevant details of class, assignment due date, at such petty things people are not ready to cooperate with me.

From somehow experimenting I came to know that the same very him, he has spread some rumours very diplomatically and people follow him like blindly. He has said that this man (me) is an anti-feminist (in the outside world it is like a slang). And many such.

As much similar to modern people at corporates, he also plays diplomatically, has nice communication skills, and people are a kind of attracted to him. And whosoever he has got friends with, he has made them feel that I am an anti social man. Also people don't like to talk to me. We are forced to live in hostel and two people in room. Since I was with my room mate, he has been very friendly with me and he also a kind of liking Krishna consciousness, but since last week, there is constant tension with him, and he has said to this point that you don't deserve to be talked to!! Same, my room mate is becoming excessively closer to him now a days.

If this continues, he can just trap me. Teachers and faculties also are scrutinizing my work ( which I do all alone) and say to him, " I have trust on you, no need to check also" and straight away full marks to him.

What should I do? I will see many people like him in future also.

I came to know that he follow Robin Sharma closely. I have an idea that Robin Sharma is a big diplomat and Karmi, whose tips are said to never fail.

Should I also see Robin Sharma's videos. Should I do tit for tat or defend myself. But how.

I know that envy is not a thing that can be shown by persons on Krishna conscious path. But my heart is filling with envy. What to do? When somebody harms this way, what can be done. I have never tried to harm him or backfire him, owing to the word of not harming others, and in the other case also I am not very good in diplomacy, so how to deal with this issue.

All sort of thoughts come into mind like maybe he has cast a magic or spell, like how can everyone be attracted to him. Also he and his room smells strangely. Can this be a possibility. If so, how to safeguard against it.

Please I am in a serious trouble of loosing Krsna Consciousness, and also becoming a "looser" at college.

Hare Krsna.

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  • E-Counselor

    Hare Krsna PRabhuji,

    PAMHO. Manikanta prabhuji has given you very nice suggestions, I completely agree with them.

    In addition, if you can somehow or other pray for this person, from teh bottom of your heart, pray that he be forgiven. That you are suffering the results of your own karma - then it will help him and you also.

    I understand your situation is difficult. Esp at your age, peer pressure and acceptance are big issues. So utilise this adversity by converting it into an opportunity to advance in Krsna Consciousness. 

    Best of luck prabhu.

    Pls be in touch.

    Haribol,

    Your servant,

    Radha Rasamayi DD

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    • Thank you prabhu ji, I will start doing so.

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