I have been working in the IT industry for around 8 years now.
I have switched companies in between. My profession requires me to constantly upgrade technical skills and applying it. While I was able to do that easily in the early stage of my career, off late and probably after marriage, it has been quite difficult for me to constantly learn new stuff.
Not sure if it is a normal behavior to resist new learnings as we grow. Even though I must admit, that I am slightly lazy person by behavior.
I am quite worried about it and I get to hear a lot (though not directly) from my co workers about me slightly behind technically and there is comparison made between me and some other better skilled colleague.
How do I handle the situation? I know there would always be difference in the skills of each individual. However, I am unable to convince the same to myself and the same thoughts keep getting back to me.
Is there any spiritual solution or perspective that you can give to the problem ?
Hare Krishna.
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Hare Krishna Prabhuji!
Dandvat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PAMHO!!!!!!!!!!!!
AGTSP!!!!!!!!!!
Radhey! Radhey!
Prabhuji as you are stating that after the marriage you have fallen down from your overall performance like professional, spritual, social etc. etc. I would like to tell one thing that do not give up like this, there might be a reason behind of your laziness may be you have some inferior complex because of the changing society and the bad cultral condition spreading in Indian Society. These would come in you after the marriage, may be you have some inferiority complex towards on your personal life.
I do not want to speak much on that but i would advice be honest toward your personal life, your professional life and spritual life. Keep a right balance with everything, do not think a lot about one subject. Love your wife like Shri Ram ji Loved Mata Sita with full of honesty, give her your 100%, iam sure you will get full support of your wife.
Be spritual in your life try to chant Hare Krishna Mahamantra daily, read sri mad Bhagwad Gita daily, Offer worship to Lord RadhaKrishna twice a day, these things will make you more confident in your professional life and be very strong in your professional life, be positive, learn new things and keep yourself updated,
do not do any back biting in your office of any of your employee, do not involve in waste gosipps and do not comment anythng negative about anyone. Put your best on your job as you said that if you need professional growth, and increments than you need to learn new things so keep doing that.
I hope you have kids at your home and other family members who are looking at you with some expectation. They need your financial support. Your Parents, wife, kids, brothers, sisters are looking at you.
Hope you have got some informaion.
Your Humble Servant
Bhuwan Dutt Bawari
Hare Krishna!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hare KRsna Prabhuji,
PAMHO.
You have mentioned that you face difficulty in keeping yourself updated, the distraction being marraige and not Krsna.
The spiritual way to handle it is to stop hankering and lamenting. Whatever good or bad has to happen to us will happen, based on our past karma. If you are consciously not updating yourself and therefore getting left out of the rat race, accept the fact that you are not the best in the business. There are others, maybe less intelligent than you, or having lesser values than you, who are better updated and therefore, will get the bonuses, increments and promotions. At that time, dont feel bad or start doing politics against these people.
Having said that, I must say it is not a healthy situation. You are so distracted by married life that you dont have time to update yourself. After some years, when others are getting the promotions and increments and can afford foreign holidays for their families, your wife will compare and eventually look down upon you for not being able to provide for her. How will that situation be? Everyone gets married prabhu. Still they make their careers.
The very fact that you are on this forum means taht you have some spiritual background. Therefore, you also have to do your sadhana. All the 3 - sadhana, home and work are important, in that order and one has to give adequate weightage and priority accordingly to them. How, that you have to figure out.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Rashmi
Hare Krishna,
Thanks for your reply. I apologize for not being very clear. However I just wanted to clarify that marriage is not the biggest distraction for me to perform better at workplace. I have good support from my wife otherwise, though she sometimes wants me to give enough time to her as well (which I presume is normal)
But I guess, the issue is as I am gaining more experience, the ability to carry on learn new things is slowing down. Just to add, in the software/programming field, the amount of newer things to learn is just enormous sometimes.
I apologize if it sounds like these are excuses. But just highlighting what I felt in my mind.
I somehow want to give my best at my workplace (along with getting the other balances right which you mentioned)
Thanks