Hare Krishna dear Prabhuji and Matajis,
Please accept my humble obeisances. All glories to Srila Prabhupada.
I am a young devotee seeking guidance from senior grihasthas and experienced Vaishnavas. In the current age, where chastity, loyalty, and dharma in relationships are often neglected, I wish to approach the prospect of marriage seriously and with full spiritual responsibility.
I would be grateful to know:
1. What essential questions should one ask a potential wife (and her family) before considering marriage?
– Especially to ensure compatibility in values, chastity, service attitude, spiritual inclination, and mutual respect.
– Questions that can help reveal her views on commitment, family life, and devotional service.
2. What qualities should I personally develop before entering marriage so that I can be a stable, Krishna-conscious husband who is not diverted from his spiritual growth or career goals?
– How to balance grihastha responsibilities while staying fixed in sadhana and service?
– What traits or red flags should I look out for in a potential spouse that may later disturb one’s bhakti or peaceful home life?
I sincerely wish to have a marriage that supports both partners in growing spiritually and serving together. I want to avoid emotional chaos and unnecessary distraction caused by improper choices, as seen so commonly in today's world.
Any advice, book references, or even personal experiences you’re willing to share would be deeply appreciated.
Your servant,
Shawlwin Sharma
Hare Krishna 🙏
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