A grahastha must daily perform deity worship, pancha maha yajna to avoid the pancha suna he commits in the home, and offer his food to the diety and then only eat. Also he must engage his family members and himself in spiritual activities, discussions , kirtana, japa etc to remain steadfast in devotion. Whatever he earns he must offer atleast 5-10% of his earnings to his spiritual master and other services and use the rest to basic maintenance of body and soul together.
SB 11.17.50— One in the gṛhastha order of life should daily worship the sages by Vedic study, the forefathers by offering the mantra svadhā, the demigods by chanting svāhā, all living entities by offering shares of one’s meals, and human beings by offering grains and water. Thus considering the demigods, sages, forefathers, living entities and human beings to be manifestations of My potency, one should daily perform these five sacrifices.
SB 11.17.51— A householder should comfortably maintain his dependents either with money that comes of its own accord or with that gathered by honest execution of one’s duties. According to one’s means, one should perform sacrifices and other religious ceremonies.
SB 11.17.52— A householder taking care of many dependent family members should not become materially attached to them, nor should he become mentally unbalanced, considering himself to be the lord. An intelligent householder should see that all possible future happiness, just like that which he has already experienced, is temporary.
SB 11.17.53— The association of children, wife, relatives and friends is just like the brief meeting of travelers. With each change of body one is separated from all such associates, just as one loses the objects one possesses in a dream when the dream is over.
SB 11.17.54— Deeply considering the actual situation, a liberated soul should live at home just like a guest, without any sense of proprietorship or false ego. In this way he will not be bound or entangled by domestic affairs.
SB 11.17.55— A householder devotee who worships Me by execution of his family duties may remain at home, go to a holy place or, if he has a responsible son, take sannyāsa.
SB 11.17.56— But a householder whose mind is attached to his home and who is thus disturbed by ardent desires to enjoy his money and children, who is lusty after women, who is possessed of a miserly mentality and who unintelligently thinks, “Everything is mine and I am everything,” is certainly bound in illusion.
SB 11.17.57— “O my poor elderly parents, and my wife with a mere infant in her arms, and my other young children! Without me they have absolutely no one to protect them and will suffer unbearably. How can my poor relatives possibly live without me?”
SB 11.17.58— Thus, because of his foolish mentality, a householder whose heart is overwhelmed by family attachment is never satisfied. Constantly meditating on his relatives, he dies and enters into the darkness of ignorance.
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A grahastha must daily perform deity worship, pancha maha yajna to avoid the pancha suna he commits in the home, and offer his food to the diety and then only eat. Also he must engage his family members and himself in spiritual activities, discussions , kirtana, japa etc to remain steadfast in devotion. Whatever he earns he must offer atleast 5-10% of his earnings to his spiritual master and other services and use the rest to basic maintenance of body and soul together.