God Proposes Man Disposes

Hare Krishna Prabhuji & Mataji,

All Glories to Srila Prabhupada

Once i was talking to one of my friend who was having illicit affairs with many girls and one day he says that he wants to marry his new girlfriend who too had series of past affairs.

I asked him: Why you do this ?? Why you are getting into this sorts of karma ??

He said:  it happens with me, what can i do ?? May be this is my fate.

I said : You leave this, focus on the other brighter side of your career, you are a visionery, etc, etc

But he did not listened to me and said : what can i do, God proposes man disposes.

So i would like to know whether our fate is prewritten or is there any free will, if there is free will.. how it operates ??


Its a common indian myth.. "Waqt ke pehle & Kismat se jyda kabhi kisi ko nahi milta"

How should we react to this ?? Please Advice.

Thanks,

HARE KRISHNA

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  • Volunteer

    thank You Siddhartha Prabhu and other Devotees for needed replies!

    If he had many girl friends in the last and she also had the same then it is a good match. Wife and husband will be happy if they are similar in nature. Why should chaste girl marry to a unchaste boy? Or vise versa?

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    As Sudipta Roy Prabhu told this body, parents, country in which we had born are not changeable in this life. Or it is possible to change if one wants. For example, if one is born in India can move to US or do some operation with her/his body....but it is hardly achieved.

    But one's wife or husband not always is predestined. Only those couples who were devoted to each other for many life times will again find each other in other cases it is not so.

    That person lost his enthusiasm and determination for a better life only because of over enjoying material senses. 

    Because to each one of our karma there are written some amount of happiness and distress. To have illicit affairs means to use that amount of happiness and finish it up before time. It is as like we have a bank account but over sense enjoyment means we are using lots of money within few years and finish it then we won't have any happiness. Because we already spent that amount of happiness with other girls or boys.

    But Devotees knowing this collect their good karma by following 4 regulative principles for the service of Krishna. Non devotees spend their ability to create for opposite sex but Devotees use that energy in preaching about the glories of the Lord. By creating new ideas for preaching...

    Your servant,  

  • Volunteer

    Hare Krishna Prabhuji. Dandavat Pranam. All glories to Srila Prabhupada

    Exhibiting of some bad habbit in this current life is the outcome of what we have practiced in last life and life before. Somebody born with some anarthas (like too much lust) is pre-destined because destiny is being decided by the karma we have done in past life for example if some one is so fond of opposite sex as in the case of your friend that means he was very much lusty in his past life and therefore he born in this life with the lusty nature, that is pre-destination.

    Now the question is whether we can change our destiny through free will?

    The answer is yes , That is why the whole set of process in Krishna consciousness is given. Holding to past habbits for sense gratification is weakness of heart. There is always free will by which if we desire we can change the destiny. Like in case of your friend if he really want to stop all this non-sense then he surely can and Krishna will help, if he really want to get out of these he can take help of devotees and gradually be introduced in purification process of Krishna Consciousness Now if he don't want and keep on saying all are pre-desitned we need to understand He dosen't want to get out of this because of too much attachment for sense gratification.

    There are something which we can't change like we can't change our parents, our birthplace , our material body , these things are pre-destined and will be like that for whole life, But this life itself is a preparation for our next destination, so by using our free will we can surrender to Krishna and change our destiny for future which is in our hand. Changing past habbits or anarthas is in our hand, So it is not that all are predestined , infact our karma in this life makes our future destiny. People don't want to because of lack of determination.

    Your aspiring Servant

    Hari Bol

     

     

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