Yesterday my father told me about an incident of his young age and I m in dilemma that whether his act was right or wrong.Please share your views.
After marriage my father went back to his work place and my mother stayed with in law's in their services.as my father was living alone he had only one blanket.One night on his way back to room after office hours he saw several drunken men roaming outside.And his female colleague coincedently met him on the same street as she missed the last bus to home.My father offered her night stay in his room to protect her from cold and drunken people.That night they slept together in one blanket.But there was No romantic or intimate feeling.Just because of gesture of kindness and generosity it all happened.
Was it right to share blanket with that lady?
Can a task which seems to be ethically wrong but intentionally right is acceptable?
I am suffering from overthinking and depression after hearing this story.Please throw light.
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Hare Krsna Mataji,
PAMHO.
I wonder in what context your father said this to you. What happened that he confided this to you? Was your mother around. What was her reaction if yes?
From your other post and this, I am confused. There seems to be proper communication between father and you in this post, but not in the other post that I commented on a little while ago.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Radha Rasamayi DD
If nothing happended between them... why would you think there was any problem?
I don't know why I m focusing on this again and again
Because you don't focus on Krishna. Krishna is cause of all causes focus on Him and leave the rest. Let the world go topsy turvy. Krishna is there for me. He will take care of me at any cost. I am totally surrendered to Krishna. Krishna will correct all people around me. I am nothing. If you develop this attitude. Than even if some very big problem comes also. You will not react to it so much. Because you are sure. Krishna is there with you.
Yes u right....I m just thinking that what if the same would have happened with me.If my boyfriend or husband would have done the same , so how should I react over this situation.We can't replace somebody on something that seems to be mistake but it's not actually in real.Still we hurt ourselves sometimes,can't be able to share to anyone and just being in dark for something that even don't exist.
We trust people but when that trust get broken we get upset.I m a type of person who is hard to forgive others.I don't know,even if I forgive,I think alot why would someone did this to me,I haven't hurt anyone,I do not deserve this etc.but I can't help it.Sometimes parents also do some unethical or immoral acts,I am unable to forget it for many days sometimes years too.I don't know how to underestimate small mistakes or sins that a closed one commit.Every one commits mistakes.One who ask for forgiveness after it, should be forgiven and loved again.But I don't know why my nature is not accepting this truth.Krishna himself forgive our sins.But why can't I ignore or forgive and love again.Why there always remains an emptiness for that person and how should I adopt that nature to forgive and love again by trusting who is begging for forgiveness and who is asking to-trust.
Hare Krishna,
I am happy because I accepted that mortal world is never perfect and expecting that someone should be perfect is foolishness when we ourselves are not perfect. This is imperfect world.
It ought to be like this to make you realize to seek a perfect partner or perfect person only in Krishna. This world should be like this only otherwise you will be happy here only and never go back to Krishna.
Be thankful to Krishna He is making you realize that this world is imperfect.
And don't feel sad about this world or people around you accept that this mortal world is imperfect and only perfectionist is our Krishna.
Make all relations with Krishna you wont feel bad anymore with this world whatever it may throw on you.
Don't hate anyone. All are acting according to Krishna's direction it is for your betterment only.
Krishna wants you back to Him so He is making you realize think its a big plan of Lord behind. Smile now and forget and forgive all and go back to Krishna.
Krishna is our father, mother, brother, sister, lover, friend, husband everything. Seek the perfectionist. accept people are like this and stop reacting like this just enjoy that Krishna is with us. thats all.
give time let keep silence Krishna will set it all right for you. Don't expect too much from this imperfect world. useless. timewaste.
Hare krishna.