Difficulties in samskara for having a good child

Hare Krishna, Dandvat Pranam!!

I was reading this blog https://iskcondesiretree.com/profiles/blogs/samskara-for-having-a-child and have questions.

So for having good child we have to see

good tithis (Sexual union must also be avoided on days of vrata and fasting, such as ekadasi, and on the parva days (full moon, dark moon, astami and caturdasi tithis, as well as sankranti, when the sun passes into a new zodiac sign) when the body is in weak condition, and the days when the moon passes throught the same naksatra as at ones birth.)
good days (Forbidden days - Sunday, Tuesday, Saturday)
good nakshatra (Forbidden Naksatra: contact should be avoided when the moon is in the following constellations: bharani, krttika, ardra, aslesa, magha, purvaphalguni, visakha, jyestha, purvasada, purvabhadra)
Forbidden days- first six, 11, 13 of cycle
I have to consider even days as I want SON

So all these points does not satisfy in one day. In 1 month we get approx 3 days which satisfy all conditions. Me and my wife are of 29. So she has age now. I am also getting pressure from family and wife for having child because of age.

Now I am totally hopeless. For two months no good days came.

I need guidance. I can't wait for a long time. Please help me.

Hare Krishna!

Hare Krishna Prabhu

I posted the references given below concerning the same subject matter in an earlier discussion, I'm posting it again:

Of all the varieties of sensual allurement that bind the conditioned soul to material existence, the root catalyst is sex desire.
"In the material world, the centre of all activities is sex, and thus this material world is called maithunya-agara, or the shackles of sex life. In the ordinary prison house, criminals are kept within bars; similarly, the criminals who are disobedient to the laws of the Lord are shackled by sex life."
Bhagavad-gita as it is 3.39 purport
The act of sex can be either sinful or religious, depending on how it is applied. Casual sex is degrading for the soul, but the same act becomes sacred when it is used for lawful procreation.
dharmavirruddho bhutesu
kamo 'smi bharatarsabha
"I am sex life which is not contrary to religious principles, O lord of the Bharatas."
Lord Krsna, Bhagavad-gita 7.11
Married couples uphold moral standards in society by protecting each other from becoming involved in illicit affairs.
"The bodily senses are considered plunderers of the fort of the body. The wife is supposed to be the commander of the fort, and therefore whenever there is an attack on the body by the senses, it is the wife who protects the body from being smashed. The sex demand is inevitable for everyone, but one who has a fixed wife is saved from the onslaught of the sense enemies. A man who has a good wife does not create a disturbance in society by corrupting virgin girls."
Srimad Bhagavatam 3.14.20 purport
As for begetting children:
"This material world is created to give the conditioned souls a chance for rejuvenation for going back home, back to Godhead, and therefore generation of the living being is necessary for upkeep of the purpose of creation. Sexual pleasure is an impetus for such action, and as such one can serve the Lord even in the act of such sexual pleasure. The service is counted when the children born of such sexual pleasure are properly trained in God consciousness. The whole idea of material creation is to revive the dormant God consciousness of the living entity. In forms of life other than the human form, sexual pleasure is prominent without any motive of service for the mission of the Lord. But in the human form of life the conditioned soul can render service to the Lord by creating progeny suitable for the attainment of salvation. ONE CAN BEGET HUNDREDS OF CHILDREN and enjoy the celestial pleasure of sexual intercourse, provided he is able to train the children in God consciousness. Otherwise begetting children is on the level of the swine. Rather, the swine is more expert than the human being because the swine can beget a dozen piglets at a time, whereas the human being can give birth to only one at a time. So one should always remember that the genitals, sexual pleasure, the woman and the offspring are all related in the service of the Lord, and the one who forgets this relationship in the service of the Supreme Lord becomes subjected to the threefold miseries of material existence by the laws of nature."
Srimad Bhagavatam 2.10.26 purport
The sacred responsibility of parents is to teach their children to become devotees of the Lord.
"If one is determined to make spiritual advancement, he will not beget a child unless able to make that child a devotee. As stated in Srimad Bhagavatam (5.5.18), pita na sa syat: one should not become a father unless one is able to protect his child from mrtyu, the path of birth and death."
Srimad Bhagavatam 10.3.33 purport
"You have asked me some questions about the functions of sex life in Krsna consciousness, and the basic principle is that it should be avoided as far as possible. However, if it is unavoidable, then it should be utilized only for begetting Krsna conscious children. In that case, the husband and wife should chant at least fifty rounds before going to sex. The recommended period is six days after the menstruation period."
Letters from Srila Prabhupada 18/1/1969
Modern governments, instead of teaching people how to produce children, encourage them to adopt artificial means of birth control.
"Instead of being encouraged to adopt artificial means of birth control, people should be educated in Krsna consciousness because only then will they understand their responsibility to their children. If one can beget children who will be devotees and be taught to turn aside from the path of birth and death (mrtyu-samsara-vartmani), there is no need of birth control. Rather, one should be encouraged to beget children. Artificial means of birth control have no value. Whether one begets children or not, a population of men who are like cats and dogs will never make human society happy. It is therefore necessary for people to be educated spiritually so that instead of begetting children like cats and dogs, they will undergo austerities to produce devotees. This will make their lives successful."
Srimad Bhagavatam 10.3.33 purport

Hari Bol

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Radha Rasamayi DD December 7, 2023 at 5:51pm

Hare Krsna Prabhuji,

PAMHO.

Happy to see your sincerity in trying to follow the guidelines.

Practically, what I have heard from senior devotees is that we take care of festival dates like Janmashtami, Gaur Purnima etc. We can even take care of ekadasi. Rest, it doesnt work to be so strict. We have to follow the body clock as well.

What senior devotees advise is - both the couple have to chant 50 rounds of mahamantra that day. Try to follow to the extent possible.

Best of luck. I hope Krsna sends a good devotee soul to you as child soon.

Haribol,

Your servant,

Radha Rasamayi DD
- Ankit P > Radha Rasamayi DD December 8, 2023 at 5:37pm
  
  Thank you so much Radha Rasamayi DD . I really appreciate your response and thank you for blessings !
Madhava das December 7, 2023 at 4:18am

Hare Krishna Prabhu

I posted the references given below concerning the same subject matter in an earlier discussion, I'm posting it again:

Of all the varieties of sensual allurement that bind the conditioned soul to material existence, the root catalyst is sex desire.
"In the material world, the centre of all activities is sex, and thus this material world is called maithunya-agara, or the shackles of sex life. In the ordinary prison house, criminals are kept within bars; similarly, the criminals who are disobedient to the laws of the Lord are shackled by sex life."
Bhagavad-gita as it is 3.39 purport
The act of sex can be either sinful or religious, depending on how it is applied. Casual sex is degrading for the soul, but the same act becomes sacred when it is used for lawful procreation.
dharmavirruddho bhutesu
kamo 'smi bharatarsabha
"I am sex life which is not contrary to religious principles, O lord of the Bharatas."
Lord Krsna, Bhagavad-gita 7.11
Married couples uphold moral standards in society by protecting each other from becoming involved in illicit affairs.
"The bodily senses are considered plunderers of the fort of the body. The wife is supposed to be the commander of the fort, and therefore whenever there is an attack on the body by the senses, it is the wife who protects the body from being smashed. The sex demand is inevitable for everyone, but one who has a fixed wife is saved from the onslaught of the sense enemies. A man who has a good wife does not create a disturbance in society by corrupting virgin girls."
Srimad Bhagavatam 3.14.20 purport
As for begetting children:
"This material world is created to give the conditioned souls a chance for rejuvenation for going back home, back to Godhead, and therefore generation of the living being is necessary for upkeep of the purpose of creation. Sexual pleasure is an impetus for such action, and as such one can serve the Lord even in the act of such sexual pleasure. The service is counted when the children born of such sexual pleasure are properly trained in God consciousness. The whole idea of material creation is to revive the dormant God consciousness of the living entity. In forms of life other than the human form, sexual pleasure is prominent without any motive of service for the mission of the Lord. But in the human form of life the conditioned soul can render service to the Lord by creating progeny suitable for the attainment of salvation. ONE CAN BEGET HUNDREDS OF CHILDREN and enjoy the celestial pleasure of sexual intercourse, provided he is able to train the children in God consciousness. Otherwise begetting children is on the level of the swine. Rather, the swine is more expert than the human being because the swine can beget a dozen piglets at a time, whereas the human being can give birth to only one at a time. So one should always remember that the genitals, sexual pleasure, the woman and the offspring are all related in the service of the Lord, and the one who forgets this relationship in the service of the Supreme Lord becomes subjected to the threefold miseries of material existence by the laws of nature."
Srimad Bhagavatam 2.10.26 purport
The sacred responsibility of parents is to teach their children to become devotees of the Lord.
"If one is determined to make spiritual advancement, he will not beget a child unless able to make that child a devotee. As stated in Srimad Bhagavatam (5.5.18), pita na sa syat: one should not become a father unless one is able to protect his child from mrtyu, the path of birth and death."
Srimad Bhagavatam 10.3.33 purport
"You have asked me some questions about the functions of sex life in Krsna consciousness, and the basic principle is that it should be avoided as far as possible. However, if it is unavoidable, then it should be utilized only for begetting Krsna conscious children. In that case, the husband and wife should chant at least fifty rounds before going to sex. The recommended period is six days after the menstruation period."
Letters from Srila Prabhupada 18/1/1969
Modern governments, instead of teaching people how to produce children, encourage them to adopt artificial means of birth control.
"Instead of being encouraged to adopt artificial means of birth control, people should be educated in Krsna consciousness because only then will they understand their responsibility to their children. If one can beget children who will be devotees and be taught to turn aside from the path of birth and death (mrtyu-samsara-vartmani), there is no need of birth control. Rather, one should be encouraged to beget children. Artificial means of birth control have no value. Whether one begets children or not, a population of men who are like cats and dogs will never make human society happy. It is therefore necessary for people to be educated spiritually so that instead of begetting children like cats and dogs, they will undergo austerities to produce devotees. This will make their lives successful."
Srimad Bhagavatam 10.3.33 purport

Hari Bol
- Madhava das > Madhava das December 7, 2023 at 5:27am
  
  especially the part about chanting 50 rounds before copulation on the sixth day after the menstrual period.
  - Ankit P > Madhava das December 8, 2023 at 5:38pm
    
    Thank you so much Madhava das for response. I will defintely try to do 50 rounds on that day. Please give me blessings for good child. Thank you!
    - Madhava das > Ankit P December 10, 2023 at 9:13pm
      
      Hare Krsna Prabhu
      
      All the best.
      
      Hari Bol

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