I understand marriage, since its something done lovingly and not sexually, but why is that there are certain things a male must do and others a female must do. Apart from biological mechanisms, i asking about things on the social level. Shouldnt a vaishnava be more concern about the soul proper than his/her or others bodily dress, is it not just skin disease.?? and avoid activities that would group him or her in a gender category??
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In the spiritual world GOloka Vrndavan, We are all people. There are men, women, children, youths, animals plants, trees etc.
Everyone has particular duties according to their body and situation. If one person tries to do anothers persons job then they are not doing their duty.
So if we happen to have a mans body then we are to do activities acording to that position. IF we have a womens body then we should do our duties acording to Krishnas instructiosn for that kind of body. If a women tries to do the mans job in a marriage then there is less harmony, and if a man tries to do the womens activities, then things become topsy turfy.
But we can see how things are so messed up in this age of Kali and the women want to be the men and not realizing that their duty is to care for the family by cooking and nourishing them with her love and taking care of the home and Deities. This is a very important job and if done properly it can bring so much harmony and happiness to the family. But if she goes to work while haveing growing children, they become neglected and so does the house work and the food they eat is generally not as nice etc.
Her job is so important, but they have taken it to be less important in this age.
Be honest, I know some devotees who are transgender and I find they struggle a lot with their mind and position in life. Transgenders are generally confused from their previous lifes body and that is why they feel they are a different gender than their are in this life. THat is just an extream example of one who is trying to do anothers role.
BUt if one can just surrender to Krishna and how He explains how to be happy and how to act in ones body, field of work etc. then one can be happy.
Hope this helps somehow.
Jaya Sri Krishna!
-Hare Krsna
As far as Unics, Srila Prabhupada explains that one gets a body in this life depending on their thoughts at the time of death. If one is a woman and thinks of a man at the time of death, she will become a man in her next life, and if a mand thinks of a women at the time of death, he will become a women in his next life.
But sometimes a person is still mentally attached to their previous body in this new life. So lets say one was a woman in the previous life and due to thinking of a man at the time of death thinks of a man. Now in this new life she is a Man. But she is very attached to her last life body and mind. So now in this life he is having a mind like the last life... He feels more like a women he has more of a womenly nature.
Those who feel they are both genders. just flicker back and fourth from the past life to this life feelings and attachments.
It all makes perfect sense.
Similarly though there are general occupations for men and women according to Krishna due to past life feelings of having the opposite body, a women may be more attracted to doing male activities, though not necessarily gay to that degree of the past life attachment.
So if one is not able to do those perscribed duties, that is not a problem. Just chant HareKrishna, and Gradually we can become purified. The fact is we are not these bodies, but Krishna does give us guidance how to act acording to our body acording to Religious principles in these bodies in the material world to make spiritual advancement. But the main thing especially in Kaliyuga is to offer all of ones activities to Krishna, and ones heart and mind and Krishna will guide them acording to their situation to help them make advancement.
You are correct it is not just black and white thing etc.
But kindlyd do not think that I am having a perfect situation. I have made ennumerable mistakes and no it is not easy for me. I do have to work at it to do things correctly and please Krishna.
Hope this makes sense to you and somehow answers your question.
Thank you.
Hare Krishna.
No question that the husband and wife can help each othe in each others duties. That is differant than fully taking over the positions out of not wanting to do ones own position.
In fact it is very wonderful if the husband assists the wife in her duties and the wife assists the husband with his. It is actually recommended. So please dont read wrong into what the intention is.
Children are lacking in getting the love from their mothers when they go to work. They come home with no mother home to assist them and take care of them. Then the husband comes home and she is also tired form work and she generally brings home some fast food or makes something fast to eat that is not very wondeful. The husband does not feel taken care of nor do the children. Then they wonder why the children are sick all the time and have many anxiety disorders and need medications for this and that and the husband finds another woman at work ect. This is my point.
If one has to work due to circumstances then that is differant. But generally women go to work thinking they need more money to pay for more vacations, big big house, fancy car, and to keep up with the societies idea of so called happiness. Or she goes to work out of bordum thinking her family duties are not very satisfying. But if one does everything for Krishna, then ones household duties and family can be a very wonderful thing.
Hope this makes more sense.
Hare Krishna.
Hare Krishna.!
discussion is getting complex and big.
chant hare krishna and be happy.pls don't use "I must say something on this" such sentense be polite in discussion it may hurt devotee.
pls forgive me if i presented wrongly and my offenses.
trying to be servant,
nilesh
However, we should also keep in mind that the activity also depends on the kind on body and mind given to a spirit soul by Krishna.
We are suppose to be servant of servant of Sri Chaitanya Mahaprabhu.
In a marriage a husband should try to assist his wife and vice versa. But there will be certain things based on the body which the husband should do and certain wife should do. This is natural. But this does not mean that they try to dump the work on other partner.