Rankin Fisher November 6, 2012 at 2:09am

Sometimes it is very burdensome to carry the weight of our actions; or the reactions of others.

Look to Krishna, he is our BEST Friend, no doubt. Don't get lost in sentimentalism; that is attachment.

I have faced a similar situation prabhu. Sometimes you can't fix things, and you can't depend on good reaction from others.

Sri Krishna is time itself. Let Time heal these troubles and wounds. Chant and be Happy. Service and the Holy Name cure all ills in one's personal life.

Perhaps, in time, your relatives will reach back out to you. We know they can freely talk to you, because you have already sincerely apologized. My advise is, don't drag it out, that is attachment. Tell your parents how much you love them, and get on with your life's activities.

your servant, r.

Faith (particleofdust) November 5, 2012 at 7:28pm

Hare Krishna !

I do not know what stage of life you are in right now. But i have been through this relative politics and still experience it quite a bit. These are the relative who do seva of thakurji day in and out, but it has not changed them in those regards. Now been there done that, i realize that i do not want to get involve in any politics. Neither do i want to criticize or confront them on what they did and what they said about whatever, all these relationships are fake. Yes the closest ones, the cousins you have played with in childhood spent your summer vacations with them. when we gro wup we are different ppl. and you need some sorta diplomacy to deal with these ppl. Yes we have been mocked for being the nice ones and humble ones.

Actually we have to learn that change is essence of life, you move on, I move on. Last but never the least, only think about Thakurji. He is the only constant in this variable world.

Hope matter resolve for peace.

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rakesh roshan November 5, 2012 at 2:44pm

Hare Krsna Radhika ji

Please accept my humble obeisances.

I heard a very senior devotee , a celibate and the temple president of one of the best temples in India in one lecture. There were some people who were trying to spread rumours about him the world over. He has brought 1000s of youths into Krsna Consc all over the country and is also maintaining them and so many centers and is an instrument in maintaining a congregation of 5000 in a city and is helping so many other temples in preaching, but there were some people who were spreading false rumors about him.

So he said " now what can I do? is it my problem that someone is talking something wrong about me, If someone has some doubt about me, the person can come to me and see what I am and clarify. Is it my problem to go to all those people ( to whom they have told all those things) and clarify with them that I am what I am"

So do not worry what the relative has said about you. The people to whom they have told these things, they should surely clarify these things with you before making any judgement. If they don't then it is their problem, not yours.you have done what you could to protect the relationship.

HHRNSM says that when you ask forgiveness does not mean that you are wrong, it just means that you value the relationship more than your ego.

Now if the your relative does not want the relationship to be, what can be done. :( :( :(....

If we are in proper consciousness and do not offend devotees, chant sincerely, helplessly, purely,never find faults with others,and are humble, trust me Radhika ji, we will never be disturbed.

hope this helps..

ys

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Mohini Madhavi November 5, 2012 at 2:20pm

Hare Krishna dear Radhika Mataji,

in the lecture many years back i heard something concerning this issue:

If a person with whom we fought is in the mode of passion we should not apologize directly saying "please forgive me etc...) But to appreciate him in some places, and give some gifts, talk nicely and they will be happy.

If we ask forgiveness from such like people in passion they won't accept their own mistake but on the contrary become convinced that You were wrong and they were right.

Because of that it will spoil them.

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i forgot how we should deal with people in the mode of ignorance.

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but we can and should apologize before those who are in the mode of goodness and above. Even if we did not had any fault.

And if we do so, they won't tell us that yes You were wrong but they will say that oh, there was no need, it was my fault not Yours....

In this way problem will be solved.

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But better thing is just always depend on Krishna not waiting for something from others.

In this way we won't become angry and commit offenses.

Your servant,