Hare Krsna Rishabh P
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"Is it possible to love without attachment?"
Yes it is possible to love without material attachment, spiritual attachment is blissful but we have to have the foundation for spiritual attachment first, that we are not these bodies and we are souls. A similar question was asked to His Holiness RAdhanath Mahraj in one class. His answer was awesome.In the second question , as you have asked, if it is possible to love a very virtuous and Krsna conscious lady,yes, it is possible to love but before that you should understand that she is not that body and she is not a woman and you are not a man. Both of you are souls and each of you should take responsibility for one another by entering into married life then it is divine. Both of you have the responsibility of helping each other go back to Godhead by leading a Krsna conscious life. If we are attached to the body, then in due course of time, it will bring misery. Every material thing gives some pleasure in the beginning and that causes attachment and the very purpose of that pleasure that maya devi gives is to make us attached, because it will cause equal amount of pain later and for sure the pain will come because material nature is dual. material pleasure and pain have to be together..If you have the foundation strong and clear, then you will realize what is real love and how it is possible to love without getting materially attached. Also,the nature of love is selfless sacrifice and it has to be without material attachment. If you really love someone, then you will do the best for that person.Also the best thing for anyone in this whole material world is that person or living being should get bhakti and pure love of Krsna. so if you really love her, then you should not see her material beauty, rather than see her as a soul who has been put under your care and take all responsibility for her and help her to take her back to Godhead by becoming very strong and serious in Krsna consciousness, chant 16 rounds very attentively and follow regulative principles. In the beginning it may seem painful, cuz you are giving up your material conception trying to see through a higher perspective but believe me, all what I have spoken is what I have heard from senior devotees and by following as I have said, in due course of time, you will see and realize what is real love, when you will be able to love with the same intensity Krsna and all living beings. The selfless service to Krsna will come. Love means pleasing senses of Krsna and if we are pleasing our own senses, it is not love. If we have some particular nature then we have to utilize that nature to please Krsna and that is the best gift that you can give to your beloved- engage her in Krsna's service , knowing that she is nt this body and she is soul like you and she is under your responsibility..and you develop love of Krsna and then you realize what is true love when you live solely for the pleasure of Krsna and engage everything for Krsna's service. Please see that bodily attraction and bodily beauty does not last long , it will go away in due course of time, neither this body remains charming for long ,neither we remain charming for long, but if we know the concept of love in the true sense, then we can really help the soul by showing our selfless sacrifice. When you come to this level , then you will love Krsna like anything and all living entities with the same intensity as your beloved.
Hope this helps..Plz do not take any offenses. Plz forgive me if i hurt your feelings in any way. No offenses meant.
your servant
rakesh roshan

Rishabh > rakesh roshan June 2, 2012 at 10:08pm

Hari bol rakesh prabhu ji ... When I saw your name i was surprised because got a reply from *rakesh roshan*, the famous director of Krish and Hritik's father :D

No> both of us are not really in to each other's appearance but more of inner traits... she's a vibrant & righteous woman but is more agnostic, believes that there is *some power above* but doesn't want to give the power a name or come in to Krishna consciousness nor can i force her. She's read BG- As it is... yet she doesn't discuss about Krishna but more of *our future together*. Actually she is practical i feel, am only trying to make our foundation strong and secure. It will take time and effort Rakesh prabhuji, to convince her of devotional activities. :)

At times, 16 rounds are really not possible but when we are walking, or getting time off from work> sub consciously chant Krishna's name in heart/ mind... its very rejuvenating.. :)

In big cities, its' tough to find men/women who are inwardly and outwardly pure... maya devi and debilitated planets often tries to allure us through music videos, films, hoardings. Somehow that *inner voice* tells me *Relax rishabh... look at the feet... that's where your eyes should be*... He's actually seated in our hearts and guides us wisely :)

Thank you prabhu rakesh Ji for a vivid reply, you can add something in case if I mentioned anything incorrect.

Your servant,

Rishabh M
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  rakesh roshan > Rishabh June 2, 2012 at 11:11pm
  
  Hare Krsna P
  
  pamho
  
  many devotees have asked and told me this thing .. he he he.. :D :D :D
  
  I understand your situation and I told you the ideal standard and but I know it is not always possible to follow the ideal standard. I have already told everything in my first reply itself, plz make sure that you take strong association of devotees in temple and you don't go down in standards like chanting 16 rounds and following 4 regulative principles else you are not doing any good to her, instead out of sentiments you are doing wrong to her. The real gift you can give her is Krsna and if she is not accepting it, the best you can do is to yourself become a perfect devotee in all situations.
  
  Chanting subconsciously is not recommended at our stage, we must chant 16 rounds audibly and nicely with as much attention as possible, that is sincerity.
  
  Yes it is true, it is difficult but the question is how are you going to maintain in such a situation, it is not an option for us, it is a must that we remain Krsna conscious all the time. Please check are you conscious of her or Krsna. If you are conscious of Krsna then you will chant 16 rounds also nicely and the rest of time you will do duty to Krsna by taking proper care of her.
  
  Please do tell if there are any other questions, i will try to answer.
  
  I humbly beg forgiveness for any thing that might have hurt. My intention is only to help you, not to hurt.
  
  your servant
  
  rakesh roshan

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