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Should women do job?
In Srimad Bhagavatam Srila Prabhupada says that when women live in village environment eating proper dairy foods, milking cows, churning butter, carrying cow dung their bodies will become beautiful. Their bodies will develop nicely.
In Bhagavad Gita Krishna says that better everyone does his or her own duty even though badly rather than doing others’ duties perfectly.
Again in the 10th Canto of Srimad Bhagavatam Krishna personally explains the prescribed duties of women. He says that women’s duties are to love and serve her husband and second is to love his relatives.
So where is the question of women going out and doing job for money?
Women are mothers and wives. Happy wife is an inspiration for a husband. Caring mother is needed if couples want to have first class kids.
By simple being at home mother creates a feeling of safety in children. Whenever children come home they should see mother and be in her association. That will build their character.
Mother cooks. She cooks with love and desire to increase the life span of her beloved ones, and improve their health and after all wishing them to be happy in life. So that food if eaten daily children, husband and all other members of the home will be happy and satisfied with life.
She is a friend to a husband. Sometimes she is a mother to him; sometimes a daughter; sometimes a teacher… if husband keeps her satisfied and happy she can fulfill his all desires regarding emotional support; homely comforts; mental inspiration…
Man is considered successful if he has one of three things in life:
And among all three one who has a nice wife is the most fortunate one.
What does it mean a nice wife?
By birth all girls are born with high qualities. For girls the greatest achievement is to remain as such where as for males is to struggle and achieve higher goals.
But women have all good qualities right from childhood. They have qualities like responsibility, purity, chastity, care taking, selfless service attitude, self sacrifice and many more.
What will happen if they go out for job?
Firstly, women should not worry about money and income. Such worries will put them into anxiety. Will make them more fearful in life; With such like worries for sure they won’t have nice, healthy kids what to speak of giving to them kind support.
Secondly, if they go out for job who will cook at home; as a result starting with husband everyone will have to eat food cooked by others and sold in the open markets like cafes or restaurants. That food which is cooked for money and with less care won’t satisfy the heart and here comes all sorts of diseases…
Even if she cooks food after her job food won’t be of good quality because her consciousness is not peaceful. Because in her job place she had so many problems, heard so many gossips, so many worries…
Physical tiredness: at least 3 days in a month women have big hormonal changes in the bodies. Those days they feel weak both mentally and physically; So doing job those days will again put them into more anxieties and destroy their good health.
Women tolerate pain of birth of a child. Man cannot tolerate this pain but woman can. Man cannot tolerate sleepless nights and loud cries of a child but women can.
Especially those boys who are not trained in brahmachari ashrams and never done any household duties like menial services of washing plates, clothes, keeping home clean, …never will understand that home needs really much endeavor to be kept as it is.
To be a housewife and a mother is a job which starts from 2 AM and ends maybe again at 2 AM. And plus it is unpaid job. Selfless job.
Does mother eat the best food? No, as I remember my mother used to eat food which we left out from last day. So she does it to save money of her husband but gives the best to others.
Does she wear the best clothes? No. My mother was satisfied with her 2-3 dresses but was always happy to buy new ones for us.
But since my mother did job and was out of home whole day long I grew up lacking her love. I needed her in the morning to wake up in her embrace and her kiss to my eyes.
I wanted her in afternoon to have food from her hands;
I wanted her evenings when I come from school at home again to embrace her, to talk to her, to assist her in her duties at home, and be kept to sleep by her;
But such thing never happened in my life. So this article was written with the intention that someday men will think of it. And let her wives perform their own duties of a good wife and mother. Take care of their emotional, financial, spiritual, physical needs and in this way keep them satisfied.
And satisfied women in the society are a sign of progress. When women are happy they serve to others happily. They give birth to perfect kids who are the future of society.
One more thing I wanted to add is that when women go out to do job they face difficulties with traveling, bad air, dirt around, carry heavy bags with lunch bag…so these things will make them sick.
Plus what to speak of lusty glances of dirty eyes? With dirty desires? By my personal example I can say that such like glances make me very angry; sometimes I want to cry. But what to do it is my fate and it is the present situation which I am not able to change. But at least can write this article so that some men read it and think of it.
Thank You for Your time and attention!