i need your advice regarding my Question its a sensitive issue my brother and sister in law facing they are not devotees My brother drink and my sis in law telling me about him to me i am worried and unable to advice her...
Hare Krishna mathaji,I have got married to the person whom i loved in 2009, MAy. He is my classmate in college and he had drinking & smoking habit from the age of 19. But during my college times with him, i have never seen him getting over drunk and misbehave and fell un conscious..
After marriage as i am being with him, i have noticed he has the addiction to drinking. As he is doing drinking for a period of 12-24 hrs every week once. After he drinks, he will not be in his control. He became wild, abuse people and drive the car rashly.
After noticing for 2 periods, we have taken him to treatment in detoxification center chennai in 2011. After the treatment he noticed himself that he is alcoholic and suffering from alcoholism. They have suggested to take a pill daily to stay away from alcohol as it will react if u drink. He used 1 month after treatment tablet and never used later.
After knowing that he is alcoholic and the consequences, he still experimented to prove that he is social drinker for the last 2 years and getting failed all the times. Although he realised his mistake he keeps doing that due to his body demands or mind I dont know actually. He cant control his body aftter he takes a first sip. It will be continued day & night for 24 hrs minimum. I am worried that weekly once habit will come to daily soon..
I did nt plan for kids from 2009 due to these problems. Now we both are 31 yrs. We are also trying from 1 year for the kid but nothing such happened. I need your help to get rid of his drinking alcohol and would liek to see him sober
Kindly advise mathaji.
Hare Krishna the dearest Mataji, please accept my humble obeisances! All glories to Srila Prabhupada! I am so so so sad for Your husband and understand Your pain. It is not easy i know.
Let me explain one situation from my personal life: If i say the truth my parents got divorced when i was only 13. So it was big lost for me. So after we with my mother left home buying another small flat. Father started to live with another woman. He was nice, i loved him but he did this mistake. That woman was not from educated family so while living with her my father started even to smoke, drink more. Later he stopped to earn nicely and that woman left him. So that was a shock for him. He was blinded by her but now she left. So he now started to drink more and more. Smoke very badly. ... Once I came to meet him and when i saw his situation my heart was broken. He became thin, dark in color, got old, wrinkles, house was too dirty to stay in...it was so pitiful to see that. When i came back to my place, that time i was doing my studies in other city i cried and really prayed to Krishna to help my father. From that time on i vowed to perform austerities-increase my rounds for him, fast nirjal on Ekadashis for him, and always pray for him. So it went on for a year. After that i do not know something happened and when i visited him again we talked about life, religion; he started to ask questions...as a result i gave him Bhagavad Gita. He read for 4 times because he felt in love with Srila Prabhupada, he read Srimad Bhagavatam...then i left again to my studies but later my mom called me and asked what i did my father. She told that he stopped to drink, smoke, eat meat. So it was something like a wonder. And in the reality it was the mercy of Lord Chaitanya.
--- People drink because they do not get enough love, respect, attention from other people; friends... So my suggestion is You being a chaste wife can do and can change him for sure. Savitri changed the karma of her husband by her chastity, intelligence and great austerities. So please take shelter in Holy Names of Krishna and start to chant them. Also learn to cook vegetarian food and OFFER that WITH LOVE to Krishna and after offering pray to Krishna to accept this food. You can cry, beg. Please believe me Prasadam is very powerful. Through Prasadam You can give Your love to him. Another thing is speak with him very politely, never use harsh words.
You can also fast on Ekadashis and dedicate results to him. Just know that he drinks because does not feel love. So as a summary: -Please chant some rounds and some rounds dedicate for him. -You can read Bhagavad Gita As It Is and results dedicate to him. -Ekadashi fasting -And of course praying. -and yes Prasadam.
Only One Person is there who can help us and that is Krishna. He is in the heart of everyone. So when You please Him He will change the heart of Your husband. If any service from my side please write! best wishes!