One of my devotee friend is an Indian mataji 30year old and she is currently in United states. There is a prabhu who wants to marry her who is around 17 years elder to her and of foreign origin(most likely from the US) but she says he is a very advanced devotee and been in the movement since 23 years.
I have seen your good replies regardign grihasta asram - my friend is in dilemma. She very much gets inspired by him but since he is 17yrs older to her and also of a foreign origin she is hesitating.
What is your opinion mataji?
Really don't know how to give exact advice.
If say no then she is 30 now, if she does not marry then these days it is very difficult to find a Devotee man also.
But if she marries then again 17 years difference is little bit too much.
But love does not know bonds. If one is in love with other person then even if he is older for 20 years one will marry. It is because of qualities.
she has to think of kids.
If she is 30 then he is already 47 then what about kids?
Is he ready to maintain kids working hard?
And why he wants to get married at this age?
Does he do job to maintain the family?
...please let she practical sides.
Or else i know matajis who married to very senior people.
But if i was she i would not do that.
Because i want my kids to be with their father for a long term at least they reach their 20 years.
But at the same time her age is also getting little more...
Please, let she listen her heart, discuss with seniors, and then take decisions.
It is enough serious subject.