If people praise me either for my work or qualities,how to differentiate between flattery & praise? Also,how to be unaffected by it because I keep on thinking about it everyday.

Similarly,I get irritated & agitated if someone criticizes me because I expect people to always praise me.Help me in getting the right understanding.

for example, Arjuna was a great worrier who could even defeat Lord Shiva. But when Krishna left this world he lost all his strength and could not even protect wives. Why? Because only Krishna gave him that strength.

In this way in 10th chapter of Bhagavad Gita Krishna says that He is the source of everything. Whatever is wonderful here is just a minute sparkle of His power.

When we understand that we are not this body but this body belongs to Krishna and we are INSIGNIFICANT servants of Krishna then we will be humble. We won't be disturbed if somebody praise's us or criticizes.

We have to pray and chant and Krishna will give us intelligence to understand our insignificant position so that we naturally be humble.