My father has never cared or loved me through words or actions.As far as I have seen him,he is not considerate of my mother's or mine feelings.He is not helpful & also responsible.He just speaks with harsh words towards both of us,not at all grateful.He is leading his life just as it goes.

I know Mataji,this is my karma but whenever I see other's fathers speaking lovingly to their children & wife, treating them well,I become emotional,keep thinking about that.

From my personal experience,I feel that all men are harsh,dominating,illl-treat their wives & they are not born to understand women's feelings.They just know to make a mockery out of this.

So whenever I see a caring,loving ,friendly husband of someone interacting with him/her,I immediately get awed by their relationship & always keep thinking about them.

I feel they have no problems in their life & everyday they must be speaking sweetly with each other.

Like this their relationship,should go on & should never end,according to me.It is for this reason,I watch this serial,where I am in awe with the husband who was a very learned man & well known social reformer in India.His wife being illiterate & married at young age to him.He takes upon the responsibility of educating her when the society at that time was not encouraging girls to study.

in the reality people in films try to show their ideals, their desire. But in the real life in this temporary world, plus in Kali yuga things go little bit in a different way.

All of us want peace, happiness, loving people....but these things do not happen in most cases. even if one thing happens comes another problem.

Because this world is not our original home. We are not these bodies. Our home is spiritual world. We are souls.

In this way no need to put to much faith and hope to this world. Some day even good things will go away from us.

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Why Krishna says us to be humble, tolerant, offer respect to other and not to wait for any respect to ourselves? Because He wants us to be happy.

He does not say it for His own benefit. He says it for our own benefit.

Now lets see what are the benefits:

Humble:

When we are not humble and think ourselves as an insignificant being then when someone hurts us with or offenses we will become very sad. Why? Because we think of ourselves as like we are queens and we should be given respect not an offense.

So we become morose.

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Tolerant:

If we are not tolerant then we will suffer to anything like due to some diseases, whether, old age, ....

But if we are tolerant and know that we are not this body but soul and we are full of bliss, knowledge and eternity then no need to worry.

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Respect others:

we have to respect others because they are all children of God and Krishna in everyone's heart.

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Not to wait for respect to ourselves:

if we wait for some attention from our relatives or even from our husband, parents ...then we again will suffer. Because everyone is busy with their own life and no time for us.

Because not only we wait for that love and care but all others also need that and wait for that from us. They hope that we will give that and we think that they will give that. But in the reality nobody wants to give. This is the mentality of material world.

But Lord Chaitania says we have to give love and respect to others. Even if they do not do so we have to so and by our selfless service Krishna in our heart will be pleased and He will give HIS LOVE TO US. this is called spiritual life.

Devotee does not wait for respect, care, love from anyone even from Krishna but tries to serve to everyone. And automatically Krishna gives His love or gives His love through His Devotees.