" When we take the vow of marriage, especially in front of a fire sacrifice, it is supposed to be that, the husband and wife take a vow to serve Krishna and to serve Guru. Husband sees the wife as the property of Radha and Krishna, given by Radha and Krishna for him to protect, the property of Prajapathi Vishnu to bear his children and whom he should protect and give Krishna Conscious guidance. Not his property but the property of Krishna. But that Krishna has given her to him for a life companion to help him in his Krishna Consciousness.
Similarly the wife sees that 'Krishna has given me a husband who is supposed to guide me and protect me as the representative of Krishna and I am supposed to serve Krishna through the husband and give a proper Krishna Conscious association. It is my responsibility to be a positive Krishna Conscious influence to my husband and to my children. Ultimately I belong to Krishna and the husband is supposed to represent Krishna. When the husband becomes mad then I have to take shelter of father.
So these vows are taken with the idea that since we want to, we do some sense gratification, but we want to regulate it and we want to become more Krishna Conscious and go back to Godhead. Now that we see how we can enjoy as much sense gratification as we can with in this useful years of our life. But rather how we can control our senses and how we can become more Krishna Conscious."
HH Jayapataka SwamiFrom the book: Vaishnava Vani Courtesy: Mathuradesh Publications
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