For a divine relationship to manifest, we need three elements:
Bhakta: the devotee
Bhagavan: the Supreme Lord Krsna
Bhakti: the process of devotional service (chanting is a limb of bhakti).
When these three come together, the Holy Name dances on the tongue of the devotee as described by Srila Rupa Goswami, ‘Love (bhakti) makes Krsna dance.
It makes the devotee dance.
It dances itself. The three dance together.’ (Sri Caitanya-caritamrta, Antya 18.18) For this kind of magical chanting to take place, Srila Bhaktivinoda Thakura recommends the following three-step process that renews our understanding and establishes our position in relation to Krsna. The steps respectively address the questions:
1) Who am I?
2) To whom do I relate?
3) Where does this relationship take place?
Step 1 Connect to your spiritual essence and identity I am an atomic particle of consciousness and the eternal servant of Krsna.
Step 2 Connect to the other person in the relationship Krsna is the infinite conscious entity and my only master.
Step 3 Inhabit the space of the relationship The material world is a prison house meant to reform my adverse tendencies and teach me to be present in my relationship with Krsna in the sacred space of kirtana and japa. By deliberately creating this space of spiritual consciousness within, you can actually chant with devotion. Sambandha is established the moment a devotee sincerely turns to Krsna and thinks ‘I don’t wish to be a slave of Maya anymore. It is enough! I don’t want to be chained to an ordinary material existence in a world of birth and death, slapped by Maya at every opportunity she gets! It’s now time to turn to my relationship with You.’
From Sacinandana Swami (2018). The Living Name. Saranagati Publishing.