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 Many times in our life, we get so insecure of others where we can't see the right things even if you have everything in your life — name, fame, wealth, etc. but still when you don't have "one" thing in your life you become insecure, and we try to get that things anyhow. We always want what our friends have. We never get satisfaction on what we have. We become so insecure that we start to spoil our relationship on the cost of mere mundane things what the person has. 

For example - Dhritarashtra was so envious of sons of pandu's that he haven't even made any compromise between his sons and his brother's son. He even separated his sons and pandu's son although they belong to same family. He been always partial to his brother's son on the cost of his sons. Similarly, we also become partial like Dhritarashtra. We think ourselves to be so great that we don't want to do any compromise between our spouse, our children or our parents, our colleagues, our guru, our guide, our mentor. We think ourselves so great that we can't even see the things clearly or distinctly by which it leads to degradation. When we think ourselves to be great person than our seniors that's when we get trapped in Maya or illusion. This is how our degradation starts.

I will share a practical life incident which happened to me personally — Few years ago, one of my friend has texted me that, let's go to vrindavan. I said okay, let's go for it. I was so happy that I would go to engage myself with friends. Wow, this is amazing. I was anticipating and relishing with overwhelming joy. But When the dates went closer, slowly my friends behavior got changed. May be I am getting insecure or he. A friend of mine replied me — just to please his girlfriend he broke our 1 year of friendship, and he replied to me in a very obnoxious way — He said,

You don't have any sense at all, you are not meant for being a friend of mine. I said, bro, if you have any insecurity or misunderstandings let's clear it off. He said, No I don't want to. I said, clearing the things makes easy and (comfortable) than why you are not clearing, he ignored. 

Then I thought to myself, just because somebody told some gossips, without any confirmation, how can we trust them blindly, and becomes insecure. We have intelligence, we can inquire it, But don't become insecure just because someone has said wrong things about your friend or any of your closest person.

Point here is that, never be insecure Based on externalities. Dive deep into it that whether actually he told like this or not, whether he behaved wrongly or not. First confirm it. Because people like Dhritarashtra are there to spoil our relationship. Similarly, in our life also we must have association with like-minded friends like sons of pandu's whose behaviour is so inspirational where we get so much knowledge, wisdom, maturity, kindness, etc. Association of such like-minded person can make your life blissful and association of evil minded person like Dhritarashtra will degrade you. 

So choice is ours what do you want!

Thank you very much 

Hare Krishna.

Your Servant,

Sumeet S. Utekar | Urban Sadhu | www.urbansadhu.net