Today I want to give a touch to a very significant part of the human relationships that is expectation : apekshaye!!!
In life whatever we do we keep certain expectations, isn’t it??
Ek baar ek bachese teacher ne pucha beta bade hoke kya banoge??
Vo bola “Dulha!”
Arey nithalle pathshala me padh raha hai tu bol raha dulha banega
Mera matalab hai bade hoke kya karoge??
Vo bola “Shadi!”
Ye to nalayak bacha hai bola mera matalab hai tumhare pitaji tumse kya chahte hai?
“Pota!”
“Arey teri maa ki apeksha kya hai beta???”
“Bahu !”
“Arey teri jindagi ka mgsad kya hai?”
“bola hum do humare do! “:D :D :D
Ye uske jindagi ka magsad hai.. Koi bhi vyakti nirpeksh bhav se karya nahi karta!
We can never become expectation less in life and in our relationships too! But we all have experienced when our expectations are not fulfilled we get hurt, disturbed, angry. And this happens many a time so whats the solution then should we try become expectationless and maintain some distance with everyone and just get busy with ourself our own work our own practices???
No! a clear no!
Because in life we need some satisfying relationships. The problem is that we seek satisfaction In every relation. We can never expect same intimacy in all relations. We have different levels of intimacy in different relations. Not necessary everyone will have the same point of view, same feelings about you. Everyone possesses different natures, right. If you don’t find someone reciprocative you need not to expect much you can certainly have another one.
And the best part is we don’t require many close relations, many best buddies in life.. just 1 or is more than enough ☺ But to get that 1 or 2 in our lives is not so easy to have and even not easy to maintain
They say, relationships grow like trees . when you plant a tree by sowing a seed.. it will not give you anything.. you will have to be there to offer water, to provide protection. Then when the seed is turned into a tree it automatically gives you the shelter, flower and fruits.. hai na. Charity begins at home!
But with whom we invest is very crucial to determine. We all need like minded association to grow. Ek sharabi agar sharab ko chodna chahta hai aur sharabi logo ke sath hi uthata bethta hai to vo kabhi charnamrit pi nahi payega. I am a student, if I hang around with some timepass girls and boys ignoring studies and having so called enjoyment can I expect good results in exams? No! similarly if I seek closeness in relationships with wrong, negative minded, exploitive people can I expect good relationship with them??? never.. We need to make efforts to discover overlaps.
And I must tell you, if you have just one or two or just 1 person in your life with whom you can gel with, with who you share amazing understandings, with whom you are naturally selfless; you are gifted, you are gifted my friends. And you should do everything possible to sustain that relationship. Even if you guys stay far away from each other, its worth to take out your time n spend time together. As you grow you relationships among each other you develop your relationship with god, with krsna and that is where your will have fulfillment in life you will never complain about expectations!
Thank you very much! :)
ys,
Nritya Gopika Devi Dasi
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