But there are some laws which we all should know, which absolutely destroy relations and do not leave any chance to rebuild them up.

1. There should not be any betray in the family from both sides. If there is betray then relations will be destroyed. How that will happen? That is another question.
2. No wife to a husband nor husband to a wife should not say something critical among other people. No need to laugh to each other and no need to discuss each other with others.
3.  Husband should not tell to a wife that she is not beautiful and wife should not tell to a husband that he is stupid. If she tells such like words then how she is clever she got married to such like person. And if husband points out shortcomings of a wife then he is not only stupid but it is also extremely dishonorable. And why he married to such a non beautiful girl?

There is need to understand that there is subtle connection between wife and husband and offenses can be done even by not associating with each other. Because of that husband and wife should not think even bad of each other.

If husband thinks that wife should be respected for her professional qualities then that is not correct. That is less mindedness. Woman should be respected for her feminine qualities, professional qualities are not bad but they are secondary. If woman thinks that she should respect a man for being emotional then she does not understand what the role of a man is. Or else if wife thinks that she should respect a husband for his household works. And man thinks that he should respect her for she is brining lots of money to the house. It's all very manifestation of our profound ignorance.

Man should be respected for his care of the family from outside. And woman should be respected for her responsibility of caring of the family from within. For this there is need to understand what is the role of a man and woman and respect each other for those qualities. Which are the roles of man and woman?

Man is responsible for taking care of the family from the outside of the family: dealings with other people, he brings income to home, he should be responsible of where family will stay, decides where family will go and live, where to do job, where kids will study, also he is responsible for the spiritual progress of the family.

Wife at the same time will be responsible for cleanliness inside the house, which rules will be within the family, who will wear what, purity of relations within the family, in what tone and how members will talk with each other and so on. And all these is decided by wife. Do you understand?

The next principle is that wife should respect husband just because he is a man, and husband should respect her just because she is a woman. If you understand these rules then feminine qualities will be cultivated in woman naturally just because of that respect to her. If husband respects wife then automatically wife becomes beautiful, soft hearted, care taking, kind, and will be helpful in everything. If wife respects a man in her husband then automatically he becomes responsible, clever, strong, brave and so on. These qualities will appear by themselves no need to do other things. Simple, start to respect a person! This is a principle. One can check it, and you will see that it is true. Because of that there no meaning in not respecting a wife or a husband. Spouses do not need something more from each other. The manifestation of femininity or manifestation masculinity.

This text was translated from Russian book written by Devotee psychologist.