Promotions

There are two types of promotions and they depend on some particular moods of family. And if there is no particular mood of the family then there is no chance of changing the style of promotions no matter what.

First type of promotion which increases selfishness: For example, if you will do this you will gain this. Such type of relations are based on the philosophy of how will I get something from the society. If there is this type of mood in the family then this selfish promotion will grow. If family lives for itself then the child also will be selfish, which means he will gain intelligence in ignorance. Suppose if parents know that they should not behave in this way with the child then they will advise him to dedicate his life for the service of society and God. But absolutely correct is that if family is selfish child also will become so and he will say to his parents if you do this I will do that. In whole selfishness of a child is cultivated at home. No matter what such type of family never ever will be happy, no matter they know how to behave with each other properly, how to smile to each other etc even though if they are selfish then happiness won’t be there at all. Happiness means to live not one’s own self. When people live for God and for the society then there is no need to search for happiness outside somewhere. That comes by itself without any effort from our side. It is far easier to live for others because many people need help. On the place of taking happiness from others we should cultivate service attitude. Because of that it is very important to cultivate worship to God. Do You understand? Family is like a single organism in the structure of the society.

If we start to buy for a kid many unneeded things that it won’t be a good promotion. Child wanted something and you buy and then later he says to buy some other thing and you will buy that also. In this way we are cultivating his selfishness. Motive by itself is good. You want to do something good for a child and buy the best thing for him. But that is for 100% is similar with feeding a snake with milk. When snake is feed with the best food – milk his poison becomes stronger. Milk is the best food in goodness and snake also loves that. But when such snake feed with milk bites then it is very hard to keep the body alive.

Then how we should promote a child?

Promoting we should increase in child desire to serve to others. To buy something for him is ok if there is need for that. Question is in what we will buy and how it will look like. For example, child says ‘I want a gun!’ No problem! You ask him ‘will you protect your family, women, children, weak persons with this gun? Will you do so with the help of this gun?’ He says ‘yes, I will!’ Then only you buy it for him and later you can play with him games where there is need to giving protection to society, women, old men… Which means you will cultivate in him proper principles of giving protection to weaker ones and win over injustice. In such case one can buy gun. Or else he desired a car. Also there is no problem. You will buy for him a car and play with him the game of building home for orphan children etc. And when he will start to play with the car you will ask ‘what are you doing? See there is not ready house for orphan children and children are suffering from hunger. Let’s build that house!’ In this way qualities like compassion and sense of responsibility in child will be cultivated. He starts to drive a car but now he has goal. Which means shopping should be done with the aim of cultivating some particular good qualities in child. This is the first type of promotion.

Second type of promotion is that things should not be better than the things of other kids. If child is playing with better toys than other kids are having than again you are feeding a snake with milk. He should not look better than others. But on the contrary modesty and desire to live simply without extra luxuries should be cultivated in child. This is a golden quality and will give immense happiness in one’s life. But desire to have better than others will bring only sufferings. If one used to live modestly then he won’t have problem with what to wear and where to go. He knows the main things that one should wear clean, simple. If person did not used to live modestly then it will be a problem for him even to come out the house. He needs expensive cloth or else he won’t come out from the house. In this way begins life full of sufferings. If I am not able to earn enough for such things then I have to struggle very hard whole life.  

In education one should also know the influential power of subtle energies. First is that we always think that what we speak is the most important thing. But more important is in which consciousness we tell. If we say will love then it will be accepted but if we speak with hatred then it will be rejected.

This text was translated from Russian book written by Devotee psychologist.