The biggest reason of destruction of relationships in family and also with children is pride. If woman is proud of being a woman and if man is proud of being a man, then child also will be proud of being proud. Everyone will be proud and nobody will have desire to associate nicely. Because of that in Vedic culture pride is the ultimate manifestation of stupidity. Person should be humble. Husband should behave humble before the wife plus he should be responsible of things which are happening. Wife should behave humble before the husband and being submissive to him she is a leader within the family and she installs internal, close relations. Wife is a leader within the family, husband is a leader outside of family but they behave humble to each other, respecting each other, but wife should be submissive to a husband. If she wants to change something in life then she achieves that not acting from a position of strength but humble creating that desire in husband. For example, she asks a question very humble and leaves chance of making decisions to a husband: ‘Please hear me dear, is it correct that you are doing this in this way?’ Any man if he is not right, when one asks like this he will say: ‘Maybe no. I will do in other way’. When wife respects husband then husband naturally respects wife. Husband will become a submissive child. In this way every woman should know how to behave with man. Why should woman know that? Because she forms relationship within the family, and the man cannot do anything about it. And every men should know one thing, if he tells to do something with gruff voice to his wife then she won’t be able to do that peacefully and will be disturbed. But if he comes closer and softly tells: ‘my dear, how do you think, is there need to do like this?’ then she will do things with great pleasure and there won’t be any problems. Woman always naturally understands that her position is submissive to a husband. No need to force her to be so. Then only she will respect her husband and value him as a very intelligent man. And if she needs something then she will have everything without any problems. But if family members are all proud then this family can be called as a kennel. And they will always simple bark at each other. Can you imagine, there are three kennels – flat with three rooms (laughter) and in each room – kennel there are 3 dogs. And at some point one dog comes out and barks. At the same moment come out other 2 dogs and fights start. In this way father, mother and son solve their problems in their relations. Then later they go their own rooms and think: ‘what a happiness to live with such dogs?’ each of them think: ‘how I dislike such like life’. In these way relations in the family is the base of education. That is not possible if each person cultivates humility in him not in other person. For example, if you come home and start to force family members to become humble then it is not correct – one should always start with himself first. And if there is no mutual respect in the family then there won’t be any good education also.

This text was translated from Russian book written by Devotee psychologist.