The next thing: how correctly correct a child when he does some mistakes? If parents do not know this then will suffer too much. The most important correction power is non-attachment to the result. How child does is not so important. The most important thing is that he will learn some lessons out of it. Because of that if child did not go to school then there is no problem. Let him miss the school even for a week but important is that he will gain some lesson out of it. Because of that if parents understand this they won’t be attached to the results. If he earns 2 marks in math or 5 there is no any meaning in that. The main thing is that what kind of person he will become. And here non attachment plays big role. For example, child missed the school and parents ask: “ok you may not study.” And he says: “I do not want to study.” Parents say: “ok, you may not study. But you explain why?” and he says: “I do not like to go there. This and that.” Parents reply: “Ok, you can try not to study.”

He tries not to study, but his friends will laugh at him: “how? You at all won’t study?” Comes school teacher and she starts to fight. When he feels discomfort that something is happening wrong then parents explain to him why he should study.

Let him miss two weeks but he will become a person. He did this choice himself and for sure he will have desire to study. By doing all these of course parents want him to be educated but it is not possible if he does not have his own desire also. Desire comes when there is free will for doing choice.

Free will parents can give when they are not attached to will he be good or etc at his studies the main thing is let him become a good human being.

Where comes this desire – to do something by own self?  From non attachment of parents. Such like parents think: “Most importantly, he filled cone, which is useful to him in life”. If parents are too much attached they won’t allow him to fill cones, they won’t allow him to go anywhere: “this is forbidden, that is forbidden.” As a result he won’t get any practical experience in his life.

This text was translated from Russian book written by Devotee psychologist.