Now we will discuss the main principle of education. That is very simple. If you can make the child to listen to you and make solutions out of it then you achieved success in his education. All other things will happen automatically. Obedience and ability to listen mostly enter into the intelligence of a child and only intelligence controls over mind and wills of a person. This principle looks like the next: if child does not listen to you then your education in equal to zero. One should understand what that ability to listen is. Listen – means one trusts you, considers you as his authority and tries to do things accordingly as you say. How to make kid to be obedient to us? Listen to us? For this there is a vast knowledge of how to cultivate our relationships with other people. If person won’t cultivate this knowledge in himself then he won’t be able to work with kids for 100%. In every living being’s heart there is Super Soul the Form of God who gives to a person understanding what is truth and what is not. We call this as intuition. If mother is lying child won’t be able to listen and be obedient. If father speaks bad with anger then kid won’t be able to listen to him. If people cheat, or do politics before the child he won’t be able to listen to them. If mother says child to be obedient and she herself is not obedient to her husband then child won’t listen to her. In this way you should understand that goal of parents’ life is to make child to be obedient to them. And to make is not easy. That is not possible without cooperation and without self work. We should try to act before the child in such a way in which we act before other people. Because before other people we act properly but before our relatives we do not try to act well. From where comes this quality? The main danger is bad relations with our relatives but not with those whom we might see anymore. We can walk very nicely on the street and say some good words to some people crossing by but this person one is here and tomorrow is there, and we won’t see him anymore. But if we become relaxed with our relatives not caring of good relations thinking that they are always with us different problems like anger, dissatisfaction, hate, fights will arose. In other words if we do not respect our relatives: wife, children, mother, father …then problems will be there for sure. Respect means to act gently, in a cultured way, and carefully. No need to show oneself in bad mood but to try to be good before relatives. One should know his own responsibilities, responsibilities of others mother, father, grandmother, grandmother which are coming out of each other’s nature. Our roles in our lives are predicted by the laws under which we have to live. No need to show a child ourselves when we have stress or when we do not have proper cloth on. Some of parents can even walk without pants before their children (beg forgiveness for this!). If we do not have proper cloth on, or if we are in angry mood, or if we have serious talks with husband or wife then respectfully we have to tell to a child to go to another room so that he could not hear our talks. It is very important to behave irreproachably. This cannot be done being an actor but real good qualities should be cultivated.  Cultivation of good qualities requires regular work which will help a child also to do the same endeavor. Desire to imitate to parents is stronger in kid rather than doing something which was told. But if you want educate your child actively then it is very important to make him to listen to you.

The next thing is that if you told something to a child that you will do something then you have to keep your word and do. And if you demand something from a child, you should demand that thing first from yourself also.

Further, there should not be any politics with the child. Do you understand what politics is? We say something but in reality everything is other than what we say. He asks: “which film will be there for tonight?” and we say: “there won’t be any film, go to sleep.” But in the reality there is film. Everyone will sit and watch film but he does not know that he is sleeping. It will be painful for a kid to be on his bed. Child till the age of 7 usually does not accept any words from parents but mostly actions. You cheated him which means he will do conclusion: it means I have to lie. If you say something and do other thing that means he will also do the same.

If we speak harsh to a child he won’t accept the content of the speech but it is form – harsh. He will think that it is ok to be harsh. Which means his false ego works as a mirror. If mother is being rude then I will also be so. False ego acts like this. Child does not understand the meaning of the words. He takes the tone of thoughts. Child is so sensitive that up to the age 7 he will take only the tone of thoughts. Because of that if mother and father have bad thoughts he will start to cry not realizing the meaning of the talks. He will feel injustice and cry. But he does not understand what justice is and what injustice is. Parents will start to prove something – it is not correct, why are you crying. But he does not understand what is correct and what is not. He sees that father dislikes mother and he cries. Or else he sees that father wants to cheat someone and he cries. Which means child cries feeling injustice and becomes naughty not for the meanings of words. Because of that one should know what obedience is. Obedience is the most important process. To listen and to obey are two different things. Many times child may obey because of desire to avoid punishment. But obedience means to listen and have desire to understand what is told and act accordingly. If you achieved such result then no need to do some other thing. No need to punish, or do prove something, one should give freedom to a child and when he commits some mistake simple to explain to him: “right here you did a mistake. We should not do in this way because of this and that. And if you had done in this or that way than that would be correct.”

Translated from a Russian book written by Devotee physiologists.