I need help..... pls reply...

Hare Krishna dear Matajis,

Please accept my humble obeisances!

I want to know what is place of love and intimacy in ones relationship(husband and wife)  in Krishna Consciousness? I mean is there any place for love each other in Krishna consciosness??? 

and how a new married woman can control her desires???? How we can control ourselves so our sadhana will not be disturbed....  ( though i know we are not controller... only Shyamsundar is controller of everyone).... but ......

Please mataji reply.... Please.... Please.... Please.... I need help... Please....

I AM sorry to ask such questions here. but i think we can discuss such things here only....

Insignificant servant of you all...


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  • Volunteer

    Hare Krishna dear Matajis, please accept my humble obeisances!

    All glories to Srila Prabhupada!

    Yes true! Always support Rashmi Mataji.

    Wanted to write about some more points:

    Cleanliness is a strength.

    Strength of mind and body.

    So when we keep our home, body, cloth pure and clean lower desires won't attack us much.

    For that You will need to read a book called Vaishnava etiquette.

    There are some basic things which we forget to follow in our practical life. For example, during day time we do not touch our bed or sit on it. Because bed is used for sleeping so it is contaminated. When we touch it we are considered contaminated. And we are not pure our body is weak. It will be hunted by desires of other subtle living entities. So we will have desire to over eat, or do some other illicit things.

    So these things are subtle.

    Once i allowed one of girls who was not yet so serious in chanting, who just recently stopped non veg to touch my hair. She told that she will make some hair styles on my hair. I was not knowing but she used her clips which she touched with her mouth ...and hands were not as pure as it should be so....

    so in this way those days i felt some strange attacks of some other desires. Wow!

    After that never ever allowed her to touch my hair.

    So this cleanliness is essential.


    You may cook clean;

    You may wear beautifully;

    carry beautiful hair style;

    saree in a modest way;

    some flowers on Your hair...

    some flowers at home;

    Tulasi tree.

    Or even You may have garden in Your home; Since home plants reduce sexual desires.

    You may use cow dung incenses;

    Put different ragas for hearing;

    Hare Krishna Mantra;

    Play in musical instruments, sing Yourself...

    Oh so many things to do for girls so no time for lusty desires even.

    Your servant,

  • E-Counselor

    Hare KRsna Mataji,


    Please dont feel ashamed or sorry - what you are expressing are very normal emotions.

    When we get married, we have to be very clear about the purpose of our union or the reason we have allowed someone to enter our life. The purpose of marraige is to keep Krsna in the centre. How to do that? By doing Krsna conscious activities together. Arati, reading, listening to lectures, chanting, attending various temple programs, preparing and eating only prasadam together.....anything and everything we do, we should do with Krsna in the centre.

    I can understand initially the attraction is more physical than anything else and the need to control our desires, for Krsna Consciousness is difficult. You have to help each other to control the senses. Chanting together is one very good method. From the beginning, follow the scriptures - only once in a month after chanting 50 rounds each, that too with the purpose of begetting a child only. Its difficult, but then what isnt? Once you chant 50 rounds, automatically the desire itself goes or reduces substantially.

    Krsna is all about love - by all means love your husband. Remember at the same time that he is husband in this birth only, of this body only, Krsna is husband in all births, of the soul.

    In times of extreme happiness, remember Bhagavad Gita Shloka 2.14 - matra sparsastu kaunteya.... it will help you keep balance. Then when you experience pain, which is bound to happen, you will be able to handle that also with the help of the same shloka - matra sparsas tu kaunteya....

    I hope I have been able to explain.


    Your servant,


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