Hare Krsna to all Devotees,
Please accept my humble obeisance,
All Glories to Srila Prabhupad,
I am very tensed and nervous as I am getting married in few weeks. I am just a beginner in KC and my would be husband is a non-devotee. My husband is based in Singapore and I would be accompanying him after my marriage. Maya is so strong there that I am worried how I will be able to practice my sadhana there, whether my husband will permit me to do it?
The deep inner feeling is that my husband should love only me and not go behind any woman after marriage and at the same time I should also do my duties to him faithfully till death.
Questions arise as how to maintain my chastity around lusty men ,truthfulness in Singapore which is more materialistic than India and lot of sinful activities are going on.
Then, I read that, scriptures allow common man to have more than one wife, even though not permitted legally, taking the source of scriptures he might keep another woman dividing his love which I do not want. I want him to love only me and the same with me. I feel that a small fight will make him leave me and go behind another woman.
My only desire is to progress further in Krsna Consciousness, make my husband a devotee and also my future children following religious principles sincerely and truthfully.
Please help me come out this fear.
Haribol
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Hare Krishna Mataji,
PAMHA, AGTSP !!
You should better discuss all these insecurities with your would be husband. Following KC & Loving your Husband is in your hand but if you expect the same with your husband, Than i think it might disappoint you. You have to check How flexible he is so you better discuss the issues with him.
However, Krishna is very merciful, If you surrender to him he will definetly take care of you. but its a gradual process.
The Nine Steps of Bhakti mentioned by Srila Rupa Goswami in his book ‘The Nector of Devotion / Bhakti Rasamrita Sindhu’ are:
As rightly mentioned by Sandeep Prabhu that you should associate with Devotees / Serve Vaishnavas which is 2nd stage of bhakti, The 3rd Stage, Chanting, Kirtan, etc leads to 4th stage Anarth Nirviti.
So check your position and move accordingly.
May Krishna bless you with eternal bhakti
Your Servant
Hk Mata ji,
PAMHO
AGTSP
I am not marrying since my parents want to me to marry a girl who is taking onion garlic and you accepted this proposal by urself. Even after knowing all those facts which you mentioned above.
I can only say love Krishna only. All other things become automatically favorable to you.Do you know after completing My CA i was worried that "I dont 9 who is gng to be my boss and hoz will be the environment"
But i just think always that i am Krishna's Dog not of my company.And Krishna is too merciful that i got my boss who belongs to Mathura and all my assistants belongs to mathura.Even my office peon belongs to mathura.
And they all do Goverdhan parikrma and surrendered to Krishna.
But you seems to loving of Singapore rather than India in which you can go to Vrindavan ,mathura,jagan nath puri and a lotsa places.
I really respect those devotees who are from foreign countries and they left their homes and their country to live for Krishna and they are living in Vrindavan or other places and doing preaching all the time.
But there you will find.........
Still it is not late you surrender to Krishna.
Please serve Vaishnavas till the time you are in India because if you get their mercy then Krishna's mercy will come to you automatically.
Your's Insignificant,
Sandeep