Very subjective question-depends on various factors like levels of attachment,material status,kids, and ofcourse spiritual quotient.Frankly speaking India( and most of the world) is a Patriarchal society ( Male head of family) and things are always more difficult if the head or leader is lost right?In vedic life a women always has to be under the shelter of a man (father,husband or son) also it was considered fortunate for a woman to die before her husband.Kindly do not ask me to quote the source of this knowledge-
This said-do you really need to deliberate on this topic? can you plz give me a reason
Hari Haribol
ys
dipti
nilesh4peace > Devi Radha DasiSeptember 1, 2010 at 9:27am
Hari krishna mather Dipti prabhu,
i just wanted to confirm setence which i heard.i agree what you say.as i understand women has more strength to tolerate miseries may be thats why while arranging marriage wifes age is less than husbands age.
means anyway both have to die but one who dies first then other has to suffer (as per natural cycle older will die first) .i happen to see such situations rescently so felt sentence can be true.
the main intension was how vedic system has been arranged which considers such subtle things.
From what I have observed, it really depends on the person. I have seen Women who could practically not live after their husband dies. Even in the Vedic culture in the past the women would sometimes jump into the fire out of grief to consider to be seperated from her husband after his death. So she would rather die.
In Indias recent history, this situation became so rediculous where many people started pushing the women into the fire of her husbands burning body, because they wanted to get rid of the burden of having her left behind or to show that she was such a chased wife. But in this age it is not recommended at all to do the ("Sati Right")and now it has become ileagle for the woman to go into the fire when they burn her husbands body.
If a man does not know anything about cooking, cleaning, Deity worship, and all the household activities. He is helpless after she dies and not know how to live.
If the man dies first, then if the lady does not have anywhere to go or if he did not have any money saved, then if she did not know how to work, she may feel helpless in life.
But as far as attachment, it totally depends on the situation who is more attached to who. I have seen both sides become over attached and dispondant after the death of their spouse.
Hope this is somehow helpful.
Hare Krishna.
nilesh4peace > Jayasri Radha ddSeptember 3, 2010 at 12:22pm
Hari bol mother Jayasri Radha prabhu,
thanks a lot.
u r right who is more attach to whom.
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Very subjective question-depends on various factors like levels of attachment,material status,kids, and ofcourse spiritual quotient.Frankly speaking India( and most of the world) is a Patriarchal society ( Male head of family) and things are always more difficult if the head or leader is lost right?In vedic life a women always has to be under the shelter of a man (father,husband or son) also it was considered fortunate for a woman to die before her husband.Kindly do not ask me to quote the source of this knowledge-
This said-do you really need to deliberate on this topic? can you plz give me a reason
Hari Haribol
ys
dipti
i just wanted to confirm setence which i heard.i agree what you say.as i understand women has more strength to tolerate miseries may be thats why while arranging marriage wifes age is less than husbands age.
means anyway both have to die but one who dies first then other has to suffer (as per natural cycle older will die first) .i happen to see such situations rescently so felt sentence can be true.
the main intension was how vedic system has been arranged which considers such subtle things.
In Indias recent history, this situation became so rediculous where many people started pushing the women into the fire of her husbands burning body, because they wanted to get rid of the burden of having her left behind or to show that she was such a chased wife. But in this age it is not recommended at all to do the ("Sati Right")and now it has become ileagle for the woman to go into the fire when they burn her husbands body.
If a man does not know anything about cooking, cleaning, Deity worship, and all the household activities. He is helpless after she dies and not know how to live.
If the man dies first, then if the lady does not have anywhere to go or if he did not have any money saved, then if she did not know how to work, she may feel helpless in life.
But as far as attachment, it totally depends on the situation who is more attached to who. I have seen both sides become over attached and dispondant after the death of their spouse.
Hope this is somehow helpful.
Hare Krishna.
thanks a lot.
u r right who is more attach to whom.