Hare Krishna, Dandavat pranam Prabhuji/ Mataji

Is there a path to bhakti without wearing the saffron dress and without marrying?

I have taken shelter of Gurumaharaj in the month of February, passed my IDC course, continuing my studies with Srimad Bhagvatam and Bhagavad gita, I try to render service at the isckon temple on the weekends and I really want to take initiation by early next year, under the guidance and recommendation of the temple president.
I am 29 years old, earning enough to support myself renting a small 20m2 studio, saving some money and sending some home to help my parents. I am below average looking genetically not gifted.
My parents and few elders have started asking the typical marriage question which comes automatically with a person in my age. This topic has sent me into kind of a low mood and confusion.

A lot of devotess have said there are only 2 ashrams and there is no middle path. But I want to take a middle path.

I feel I am ineligible to be a husband. I don't earn enough to rent a bigger place support children or send them to college. I not some prince charming a girl would dream of marrying to, at best I am someone you would settle for when your Plan A and B didn't work out. I also feel even I would not want to marry someone I don't feel atleast a little physical attraction to as I am not on the paltform of seeing everyone as only spiritual souls. I feel this is not a good situation to consider marriage.

I can't stop working and accept the saffron dress, as I support my parents financially and it gives me some purpose in life. I work in the art and animation field and I can definitely use my skills for service.

How should I structure my life, where I don't need to wear saffron and also not get married. Still continue to progress in bhakti and conquer over lust?

Thank you for taking the time to read my question,

I apolagize for my ignorance, I am trying my best! Haribol.

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  • Sevak

    Hare Krsna

    In general a position in varna and ashrama is based on material considerations and conditionings and not spiritual. There are no restrictions for practice of bhakti in general. Bhakti process does not exclude any person as such. 

    But since you will be accepting diksha, it would be best to take personal instructions from your initiating guru.

    Hare Krsna

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