Hare Krishna,

In recent days I happen to see some cases where wife/husband who is not a devotee is either asking for divorce or choosing adultery to satisfy their material needs. Material minded people have so many urges and desires , devotees being trained to live pure restricted life may not satisfy them and this would result either in separation or illicit relationship chosen by the partner. So, it is better to marry a devotee or marry a non-devotee who know about lifestyle of a devotee completely otherwise there can be big problems in future which may even cost life. 

YS

Aakash

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  • As if marriages between devotees is completely devoid of all problems.

    When two people start to stay together..there will be fights ego clashes..

    no marriage is successful unless there is underlying love within it. If there is no love then any marriage can break.

    There are no like minded people...what should be there is  understanding, adjustment and cooperation.

    These days we rarely find adjusting mentalities.....

    In olden days also there were fights between couple but there were living together adjusting..not simply opting divorce or adultery as a rescue.

    Material mind is the root cause and and selfishness...! Selflessly loving other person is completely lacking now.

    basically people are married seeing the outer appearances....that is the main reason.

    desire for supremacy in both the genders is also increasing. 

    If there is some lacunae in the marriage....people are easily opting for divorce or adultery to satisfy the needs. But don't care to sit and sort out the differences and understand giving time each other ....giving space to each other..is lacking

    Basically........Love is lacking. Two people are just attracted to each other and marrying.. Attraction is a temporary thing., when attraction is lost they no longer want to continue.

    devotee and a devotee if get married also there is no gaurantee that their marriage is gonna be successful.

    Well, Karma also comes into play. 

    we decide so much and marry but what is in store in our destiny it is bound to happen. In Telugu we have a saying..

    punyam koddi purushudu., danam koddi biddalu" it means your good karma decides you life partner, while our charity decides you children's fate.

    You cannot chose parents, brothers, sisters, friends, and life partner....they just happen. We think we are deciding..but actually they come to you as per ur destiny.

    In majority cases a devotee- devotee pair is successful as they have one goal. And as devotees they know what to be given priority.. body or the soul. ....selfish interests vs. Lord. They know clearly what is given more priority to.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7p-iu_kRBic

    This is a nice vid. you can watch it.

    even this vid.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lxSpXxIFESs

    Hare Krishna.

  • E-Counselor

    Hare KRsna Prabhuji,

    PAMHO.

    Yes, it is advisable to go for horoscope match before looking at a profile for marriage. 

    Regarding varna, in Kaliyuga, everybody is a sudra. I have seen people checking the gana - manusya gana, devata gana, rakshasa gana.

    Anyways, if you match horoscopes, these things will automatically come out.

    Haribol,

    Your servant,

    Radha Rasamayi DD 

  • E-Counselor

    Hare Krsna Prabhuji,

    PAMHO.

    What you have mentioned typically happens when the couple gets married, afterwards one partner gets into devotion and the other partner is not interested. I personally know ladies who fought with their husbands and came into devotion only to save their marriage. Now they are convinced devotees and very senior matajis.

    I also know one couple whose marriage almost broke because the husband came into devotion and could not appreciate whatever little his wife was doing. 

    This happens more because of the partner who has taken to devotion. It is initial stages, that much realisation is not there, they dont know how to be patient and cultivate the other partner into devotion, but have heard of some rules and regulations in lectures or read in books, they start to find fault with their partner to such an extent that the non devotee partner takes an aversion to devotion, esp the ISKCON way. 

    That is the reason we encourage couples to come to our classes together and consciously cultivate the non devotee partner, at the same time counselling the devotee partner on how to be patient. We have tried this with a newly married couple, husband in our group, wife non veg eating, non pious (not much faith in God). Out of love for her husband and due to friendship with the group, she has now become Krsnaterian, chants 16 rounds and now has Laddu Gopal in her house, whom she takes care of very lovingly. All this within 15 months of marriage. She even renders service in the temple during festival times and is ever ready for any service. 

    Haribol,

    Your servant,

    Radha Rasamayi DD

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