Hare Krishna
I am new to this platform and want to ask few questions:
How can i ask my friends to stop eating non veg? They will say we sit business partners or some other reasons. How can i convince them?
How can i convince my friends and relatives not to drink alchohol and smoke. They will drugs are also in allopathic medicine.
I really want to wear rudraksh mala but in order to wear it you need to stop consuming onion and garlic. How can i convince my family that onion and garlic are not good? Any scientifc blog if you have which can help me.
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It's great that you are seeking advice on how to approach these topics with your friends and family. When discussing sensitive topics like dietary choices, alcohol and smoking, and cultural beliefs, it's essential to approach the conversation with respect and understanding. Here are some tips for addressing each of these concerns:
Regarding the belief that smoking hookah is the best:
Remember, convincing others to change their behaviors or beliefs is challenging and may take time. Be patient, understanding, and compassionate throughout the process. Let them know that you are there to support them, regardless of their choices.
Hare krishan
Okay I understand your situation you should go slowly stop this thing but first step to Start it is by visiting the community events and try to daily go to ISKCON temple and sit with the group of people and make your social group so you can get inspire by them and be like them after that try to bring your family there.
Hare KRsna Anuj Prabhu,
PAMHO.
Firstly, sorry for delay in replying.
We need to understand one thing - Krsna Consiousness is for US to follow. I tis very natural that when one comes to Krsna Consciousness as a new devotee, we try that the world around us should see and appreciate the gem we found and adopt it alongwith us. Gradaully, we get beaten by our friends and family so much that in some cases, the (komal) faith itself gets shaken, then we setlle to a lot less energetic Krsna Consiousness.
Real maturity is to understand that to change anyone around us, we need to change ourselves first. Have we reached a stage where we do not get irritated by what would normally irritate us? Whether our temperament has improved? Have we become calmer?
Please answer the above for yourself. I already know what your answer will be.
The next stage is to realise that Krsna Consciousness is more internal than external. Once we realise this, we start to change ourselves/ cultivate Krsna Consciousness from our heart and see the change of heart.
In my opinion, you should start from home. To convince your family, you stop having onion and garlic. Develop a genuine distaste for it. When your family sees that you really dont like them, they wil stop serving them to you. Maybe they will adopt your means, maybe not. Dont ever force family. Accept them as they are. Learn to stay in peaceful co existence where they are free to follow their conviction and you are free to follow yours. Then only they will realise that this person has changed - he is not trying to impose his views and beliefs on us, he is peaceful and happy in his choice of way of life. then only they will pay attention to your ways and try to adopt. If they dont, just too bad. You have found your peace.
Dont know the rules of rudraksh mala. For tulsi mala, if we wear around our neck, then onion, garlic, non veg, alcohol should not cross the neck anymore.
Haribol,
Your servant,
Radha Rasamayi DD
Best way to convince others is by example.
Are you chanting your minimum set rounds, at the very least 16 everyday?
Are you observing the 4 regulated principles?
Chanting the Holy Names, Mahamantra is of utmost importance. A million times more important than anything else.
4 regulative priciples help us stay on the path.
Chanting Hari Naam will cure every disease. Including this disease of material attachment.
Can you encourage your friends to Chant 1 round of Hare Krishna Mahamantra? If you cannot, can you at least have them chant Hare Krishna Mahamantra once? As soon as they get up.
Even if they cannot do that, have them chan "Jai Sri Krishna" or "Jai Sri Rama"
Doing this every dat will go on clensing them and automatically they will by themselves feel like giving up bad and sinful habits.
Sometimes they may just throw up if they eat meat and Lord helps in making them give up.
Just wear them anyway. Do your best to convince your family about onion and garlic. If they dont listen you cannot do anything about it.
Just keep chanting and be patient and one day lord will change their mind.
https://www.salagram.net/Onions-Garlic-in-relation2Vaishnavism.html
Hare Krishna
I only chant 4 rounds in a day. Well, i hate non veg, alchohol and all such anti social elements.
Hare Krishna,
I found this video present by ISKCON DESIRE TREE very convincing. Pls. go thru the entire video. Really enlightening.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spPZMB_FFG8
We all know other substances alchoal, drugs and non veg how they are dertimental in progress of bhakti. But onion garlic and its side effects on the consciouness is explained beautifully by Amerendra das prabhu ji. It is most convincing video I personally felt and It covers all those scientific evidence, Medical reference.. Scriptural references and much more.
Pls. take time to go thru it entirely.
Hare Krishna.